Re: I don’t know what to do..
We are restricted to apply to job furthermore because of his visa which is currently tied with his current employer. he works in MNC , good job but not enough for family to get through. Believe me, It hurts me a lot and I even tell him off alot of times. I can’t tell you how my mother repeatedly tells me on the phone to respect your husband etc… My parents think of him like a son! whenever my mum calls during night and wishes to speak to him, he swears silently before taking the phone from me! what the hell? They are just speaking to you because they care for you! I never do that! but he doesnt take me serious!! he thinks I am the meek type, goody two shoes.. etc. I think even my in laws think that just because I am not that out spoken or speaking against them in front of them, is just my way of showing my respect to them. He doesn’t get marriage is a two way compromise! On the other hand, He does contractual work during the weekend. I know he is trying and its pressure thats making him smoke. He never tells his family about financial problems. I mean why not? I even mentioned once to ask his family. he said it doesn’t look good to ask his old parents, we should be sending money back home not the other way around. Which I get that but they are living well off, why not ask for some cash for sometime being. As for not going out, he thinks it like “awara gardi, awara phirna etc”… I dont know why he thinks that! We hardly go out during the weekends either! once there were no tomatoes at home which are essential for curry, I nipped out to my local store which is 5/10 mins walk and I caught him coming there too as it’s also near his work.. So I followed him in and caught him by suprise when he was actually there to buy cigs! He asked me what are you doing there? why are out without my permission etc! I told him straight there was nothing at home to cook even to make dinner.. I needed few stuff.