I dont know what to do :(

[SeaBee]

@CM

A series of questions for you:

1. Would you argue with your parents and fight with them if they insulted your husband?
2. Would you have an issue if your parents were dependent on your husband for money? Would you tell them to get lost since its your husbands money?
3. Have you cut all your times and your dependency on your own family?

The questions aren’t directed at me, but I’ll answer them too (as someone who’s been married for 5 years.)

1. I wouldn’t fight per say, but I would definitely - though politely - stand up for my husband. I would definitely do something about it instead of just pretending nothing happened, so I think the OP has a right to feel upset that her husband didn’t stand up for her.

2. The OP hasn’t told them to get lost. I think her issues are more to do with her FIL’s control over their lives than their money.

3. Yes. It’s natural after you get married. Your focus becomes your own home and your own family (ie. husband and kids.) On a side note, I have female friends who have to plan months in advance to go for a few hours to visit their parents in the same city. Those same friends are expected to spend multiple evenings (in a week) and weekends at their inlaws. It’s double standards.