Yes yes we are all busy. Even my 6 year old is busy and so is your little toddler. Yes our lives are full and we all have a lot on our plate. I have no doubt. But I have seen this increasing trend in women these days who feel pride is using this word “busy” and yet, you look at their lives and they’ve accomplished nothing! They say so themselves…that “oh I’m so busy but nothing gets done!”
This ticks me off a lot. Yes yes, to each their own and I’m not living their lives so I should mind my own business and all that good stuff. BUT, let us for the sake of discussion and to bring a change in flavor on the Lifestyle forums, talk about people who are busy but unproductive. What do you think they need to change? How should they prioritize and learn to distinguish between the urgent and the important?
Here is where I’m coming from. I have a friend who’s been reaching out to me for help. Her biggest concern is what I mentioned above. This is what I told her:
First fix your attitude and stop claiming you’re so busy. It isn’t cute and grows old after a while because we all know you are busy and so are we. You’re busy out of personal choice so why the complaints. There’s a limit to venting, and if you vent all the time, it means you either need a great deal of attention or appreciation.
Make a daily list of what you have to do. Stick to it. Prioritize.
Take time out for yourself so you don’t get burned out.
Be grateful you’re not a useless and lazy person who has nothing to do.
Thank you so much Niks for opening this thread! You are so right. I for one have started to realize hhow much time I had been wasting griping and grousing, and not actually doing! It's amazing what you can accomplish just by tweaking your attitude a little!
haye allah....why your threads usually revolves around 'me and my sugarhapa and my girl friends lousy attitude or poor housekeeping skills'??
...i think its time to make some guy friends now....
Being too busy is a symptom of not planning; the excuse for not planning is often said to be that they are too busy to plan. This is a symptom of thinking that what they are busy doing is actually effective. Time out is the way one organises more efficient ways to do things ... Prayer, is a time out ... Not only does it break up the day into nice pieces, but seems to provide more time.
People need to stop TRYING to do things and simply start doing them.
they cannot do them if they have not already seen in their mind's eye what they want and how they want it. They cannot do anything well if they allow themselves to get distracted.
come to terms with the fact that sleep is number 100 on my list. accept this fact, come to terms with it, be happy with it.. and MOVE THE HELL ON!
the day i did this.. my house was sparkling, my kids happier and the husband happiest.
me? very very satisfied. sure i still miss my 10 hour sleep before the kids came along.. but bah... nothing like getting all your housework, lunch and dinner done by 11 am .. leaving the rest of the day to cuddle with the baby and watch rubbish on the tv.
ditzy housewife
before i realized this... i was so angry all the time.. over not getting my sleep.. and would put off stuff cuz i was angry :D and how would i term all of this? by saying i was bz.. i have so much to do.. yet nothing would get done.. cuz i was so sleepy.. and that would add up to the anger.
so for me.. bz was really anger. i think a lot of ppl dont really mean to say they are bz.. they just .. are a million other things.. BUT bz.
discipline, organization and setting priorities solves many issues of ..not having enough time
In the end, venting only does so much, and beyond that there either has to be a concentrated and real effort to make a change, or coming to peace with the status quo. Venting for sometime is okay though, instant changes and results are not expected or possible, and best laid plans can fail and send a person back to square one. At that time support is needed, and it can come in many forms. If the desire and effort to make a change is not there then being a sounding board is not only wasting the listener's time but is counter productive to the person venting because maybe they need a reality check and tough love at that point rather than a sympathetically nodding head.
^ how about when you do give advice about how to manage/plan, they end up responding with "mere paas iska bhi time nahin hai..."?
I think some of these people just dont think they have enough time to even organise their life, or they actully believe that their lives are organised to the max, and have no time left over... hence the busy-ness.
To me life, time and tasks are just like tetris. If you know how to schedule/manage/organize it, you can have time on hand for most of the things in life.
If you assume that black background is “time”, here are couple of examples
messed up organization/time skills: person is not organized. lot of time wasted in b/w
well organized/schedule life: well organized person. still have lot of black on hand…
Yes yes, to each their own and I’m not living their lives so I should mind my own business and all that good stuff. BUT, let us for the sake of discussion and to bring a change in flavor on the Lifestyle forums, talk about people who are busy but unproductive. What do you think they need to change? How should they prioritize and learn to distinguish between the urgent and the important?
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