I have a SIL(husband’s sister) who is very very close to my husband. I can very confidently say that my husband loves his sister more than he loves his parents or himself. But I have never felt any jelousy or have never disliked it ! Unless and until when she interferes in my life which she very rarely does. So personally i don’t think any wife would be jelous of her husband loving his sister unless this bro-sis love affects her rleationship with her husband negatively or when the sister is taking undue advantage of the love she is getting from her bro.
I support my husband when it comes to his sister , he speaks abt all her with me , he even shares those things/feelings/worries abt his sister that he doesnt even share with his parents.
The idea behind telling u abt my experience is that try to understand your brother’s feeling for his wife. He is a common interest b/w you two and keep him happy and tension free you both can work things out. This will not only help you in creating a better relationship with your bhabi but it will also help your bro and bhabi creating a better relationship amongst themselves.
How do I rise above it.Is it me and my insecurities.I don’t have a fancy job,I’m not articulate.
You dont have any reason to feel insecure. You and your brother have a BLOOD RELATIONSHIP which can never ever end or break !
Fancy Job will not help your family to love you more ,… with or without a fancy job you family will love you. Believe me your loved ones are least bothered abt these things.
Just feel happy and proud to have a loving brother like you have …many of us dont have such loving brothers or dont have brothers at all !!! Once you will start feeling that your family is your most prized possesion and your biggest asset you will get rid of your insecurities.