Once in class, our teacher mentioned how bad he felt about being bald. One of the students innocently tried to console him and said in urdu, “No problem sir, kiya hua if you don’t have upper hair, at least you have the lower ones” As there was an explosion of laughter in the class and the teacher (grining) grabbed the student’s neck and ears and jolted him. That student and I were surprised of what has he said wrong. After the teacher left, that boy asked the class; whats so funny about complimenting ones beard, but when the class told him about their interpretation, he thought of saying sorry to sir and clarify his intentions, but was confused if the teacher actually thought of his comments in the way the class was saying. What if the teacher gets shocked by his explaination, and it might fire back as he might take it as an insult and fooling towards him planned by the class.
There is a senior person in our office who is among the most responsible and experienced members of the staff. He is always in a hurry and politely says to everyone, “I am really busy right now, I don’t have time. Lets talk later”
Today we were discussing about the beautiful manners of the prophet (saw) that he never used to turn only his head in order to answer anyone calling from his left or right. Instead he used to turn his whole body toward the person to face him as a sign of respect, even while he was siting. Also after shaking hands with anyone, he never used to pull back his hand unless the other person losen his grip and pulled back his hand.
I felt tempted to share what I heard from scholars that despite being the most responsible and busiest person, the prophet (saw) never used to snub anyone no matter how low that person’s rank and status was in the society. He used to keep listening to anyone who started talking to him and kept on listening till that person got tired and stopped talking. The prophet (saw) never used to say," I am really busy right now, I don’t have time…" OOPS!! I realized my mistake when I saw the colour of his face changed, but as he asked for an excuse to leave, I didn’t know how to clarify to him of what were my intentions. I never intended to mock or disgrace him, in fact it was never in my mind till I saw his embarrassed reaction. But I also can’t tell him that I wasn’t being sarcastic about him when I accidently used his typical sentence, then he would think that I actually was pointing towards his behavior…
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There is a senior person in our office who is among the most responsible and experienced members of the staff. He is always in a hurry and politely says to everyone, "I am really busy right now, I don't have time. Lets talk later"
Today we were discussing about the beautiful manners of the prophet (saw) that he never used to turn only his head in order to answer anyone calling from his left or right. Instead he used to turn his whole body toward the person to face him as a sign of respect, even while he was siting. Also after shaking hands with anyone, he never used to pull back his hand unless the other person losen his grip and pulled back his hand.
I felt tempted to share what I heard from scholars that despite being the most responsible and busiest person, the prophet (saw) never used to snub anyone no matter how low that person's rank and status was in the society. He used to keep listening to anyone who started talking to him and kept on listening till that person got tired and stopped talking. The prophet (saw) never used to say," I am really busy right now, I don't have time..." OOPS!! I realized my mistake when I saw the colour of his face changed, but as he asked for an excuse to leave, I didn't know how to clarify to him of what were my intentions. I never intended to mock or disgrace him, in fact it was never in my mind till I saw his embarrassed reaction. But I also can't tell him that I wasn't being sarcastic about him when I accidently used his typical sentence, then he would think that I actually was pointing towards his behavior...
LIFE is Tough!!
What was your reason for telling him this story, in the first place?
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indeed such situations are tough. and sometimes it becomes really really hard to explain someone something.
If i was that student...then i would have gone to the teacher and would have inquired as to i would have asked him that i would like to know did i really say something offensive? through that i would have known what the teacher understood from my comment and then would have explained him what i actually meant.
for the office dude i would have spoken to him at least once just to clarify that it was all un-intentional.
