Re: I can’t stop thinking about my boss! Please help.
Why do you even care about trying to find out in “which way” he likes you? If you spend a lot of time/energy analyzing (in your mind) all of his actions and words…then I think that’s a MAJOR PART of your problem. And that’s exactly what you’re doing. In the quote above you’re trying to analyze what you percieved as “nervous” behavior.
For all you know…he may just like you cuz you’re a responsible employee who is doing her job. For all you know…that “nervous” could even be a feeling of discomfort because he can sense that you’re crushing on him. Our feelings are reflected in our body language and as much as you might feel that you haven’t given him any indication of your crush…he could even pick it up in your body language. And that can be embarrassing…especially if he doesn’t feel the way. And it’s not only him…OTHER COWORKERS can also pick up on it…and that can pose problems at work.
You say that you have a happy marriage. Are you sure or is there something lacking that you’re not aware of? For example maybe you like that your boss praises you for your work…and it’s praise that you’re missing in your marriage. No relationship is perfect. Even if you were married to your boss…it wouldn’t be perfect.
Marriage doesn’t mean that one won’t find another person (besides their spouse) to be attractive. The important thing is to not act on those feelings and to check yourself…especially in your situation where you’re working in close proximity with the person.