yes i m in a fix, plannig how to get out of this safely and successfully.
and i m sure my fellow guppies will certainly of great help as they r always.
I am interested in one my cousins who is number 2 in her siblings. my mom knows it as i myself tell her and also my anty knows it too as i also told her that i m interested in her daughter and she said that she will support me all the way. two years have passed by and i was pretty mech confident that as soon as i’ll get job i’ll proceed ahead.
But last nite my anty called me up and ask me that m i still there where i was two years back. she told me that she is under great pressure as she has flatly refused two good proposals keeping in mind that she has already commited to me that she will be on my side. she is expecting third one to be very soon so she want me to make a move quickly. she also said that it will be no big deal that i m searching for the job.
on my side i m still where i was. i m still interested. but my mom doesnt seems to hold the idea very much as she is keeping quite and giving no reactions whatsoever.
any good ideas or advices from u people?
i dont want to go against my parents becuz u owe so much to them.
i also dont want to lose my interest.
p.s. why has ur mom's attitude abt this issue changed all of a sudden?
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I guess ur mom was not interested in this rishtaa from the begining...& she may be thinking that "this love bhoot" would get out of ur mind soon...but as u are pursuing with the same thoughts... that's y she is keeping quiet & not giving any response..ask ur mom y is this rishtaa not good...she may have some very valid reasons....Good Luck
I feel that there is no point in trying to convince your mother, if the girl's mother has made up her mind. I wouldn't know what you mean by being at the same place even after...er...what was it, three years? She has already turned down two so called good proposals in hopes that you might get somewhere. that is a really difficult thing for a Pakistani mother to do. So, unless you can either improve your prospects or convince the girl's mother to wait just a little longer, there is no point in trying to convince your own mother. I really hate being so harsh, but you are not being fair to that girl. Just my opinion...
BTW, is that girl interested in you too? Because, if she is, that changes the whole scenerio of course. Khair...good luck!
From my point of view,I suggest you could try n talk with your dad or other bro/sis which will not critisise you and listen to what u want and don't want. Also, find out why your mom is not reacting, find a good time to sit with her and tell her how you feel - make your words constructive.Also, this girl you're interested in: does she have the same feelings for you?What about her whole family- what are they like.
Anyways, i'll pray for you & hope you get out of this mess asap.
My suggestion would be to grow a pair, be a man, and cut the cord. If you think you're ready to get married, then you should do what it takes. This over-dependence on your mother/father/siblings is rather sad and shows that you care more about their happiness than yours. And if that is the case, you will never be truly happy.
