I cant do this anymore...

Lifestyle Relationships
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Really ? I guess if you take your dentures out he will stop taking his hearing aid out.

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go back to sleep........

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OP take up belly dancing.....no i'm not joking...and do a performance only for your hubby. do you think that will get his attention away from the tv and on to you ?

forget about this other man, it ain't love :P

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omgggggggggg... the same is happening wth me.. except i m engaged, not married. And I have a crush. I know its not love.

arghhhh this is soo hard! like my fiance is amazing but i guess my fiance is immune to me getting hurt and stuff as I am clumsy. But I would really like my fiance to care

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I'm telling you now this is not love, but lust. Let me ask you, was your marriage arranged or for love? If for love than perhaps you should remember what made the two of you fall in love with each other in the first place, so much so that you decided to take an oath before god and all of your loved ones. I'm sure you're not the type of girl who changes her mind about the man she married in just a couple days, so give this a thought. Try to make things work with your husband, tell him about what is bothering you when he is no where near the TV, trust me the man you are pursuing may be good for only a month or two, stay with your husband, try to make it work, communication is key. :)

And by the way, if this other man had any respect towards you he would not be flirting with you as a married woman, what happens if one day in the future this same man does the same thing to you? No discussing the matter, no sympathy, just goes off and marries someone who make him more happy??

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so this is why people make their multis here? almost half of the posters here are seriously trying to help. isnt it so amusing and pleasing, seeing them befooled. if you have to make fun and fool around simpletons here, atleast dont concoct this nonsense of having a crush over someone being someone's wife already. Think of something else.

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Try giving things with your husband one last shot, sitting him down and telling him EXACTLY what is wrong with the relationship and what you need from him. If he still doesn't care, then my advice would be to move on, not neccessarily to the other person immediately but at least with your own life. I know people on here will disagree with me, but I feel you only have one life here on earth. You can either spend it in misery living a life of sacrifice or compromise, or you can make it worthwhile for yourself. It's up to you to take that risk, but as long as you're honest, open and don't do wrong to anyone you'll be fine.

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U arent his wife yet. So unless u have something more solid relationship vuilding material on this guy than just lovey dovey stuff... Dont go for it. U seem to be under the illusuion that its meant to be valentines day everyday... Fine so ure husband lacks in showering u wi love 24 /7, but does that make him any worse than this guy.... ?

Even this guy's romantic side will take a dip once u guys get married... It happens to everyone.... Im not saying marriage is loveless... But i sure dont expect my husbnad to write poems to me and do all the gay stuff he did before marriage cuz well... Ee have better things to do like grow up and be responsible parents... We have so much more on our plates now... Love changes throughout marriage,.. Now love is playing with our midget... And taking him to the park and parents groups ... Love is feeding each other in turns whilst having a horrible night with the toddler who refuses to sleep... It hanges yara...

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Your not married to this other guy so it will all seem happy jolly and romantic now. If you think by leaving your husband and going with this other guy will make u happy, then i think ur wrong. men have a tendency to believe if she can leave her husband for me, she can leave me for the next guy.

as another post suggested, this is not love, but lust....for something that you just cant get 100%. concentrate on ur marriage.

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Leaving your husband for this other guy would be a really big mistake you would make!

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the grass always seems greener on the other side