Re: I can never please my in laws!!!!
Believe me....being close and wanting to be part of a big extended family and have all get togethers etc has it's open problems. What's needed is a middle ground, where both territories are marked and you don't end up lining in each others pockets as that leads to no end of problems.
If MIL's not happy with you being so far/so close then come to an agreement - tell her to come stay for a few days in holidays etc and then it's an adventure for both you and her, you can have a gathering/outing knowing full well that at the end of the stay you've got your own space/routine back.
Also, you could go stay with her too - over a long weekend for example.
It was a wise person that said "Absence (distance makes the heart grow fonder" - only wish I'd thought that 6 years ago when I moved because I wanted the extended family feeling :( !!