Well…SOMEONE…has to be the more laid-back/tolerant/mature person in the marriage.
If BOTH partners are going to be equally uptight/petty/and have ego issues…how will the relationship ever progress?. If you both become so determined not to drop the silent treatment unless the other person talks first…then NOBODY would talk in the marriage.
Many people struggle with getting over issues. They end up developing grudges they have a hard time letting go of. These grudges consume so much of your energy, take valuable time out of your life, and just plain wreaks havoc on your body. I recently read an article which said that stress creates an acidic environment in your body…which increases the chances of developing cancer. SO…Mirch…if your nature contradicts your nick…and if you’re milder than a mirch…consider yourself blessed. I know, I need to work on letting some issues go.
Anyhow, I think your issue is not that you get over things quickly, but maybe that you’re not communicating yourself clearly to your husband. Just talk to him calmly without getting defensive. Tell him that you love him and that you value your marriage. Tell him that you believe that arguments are natural in a marriage but that silent treatments can harm it, because it’s a way of imposing control on someone. People think that giving the silent treatment will make the other person feel guilty and make them surrender…or talk first, etc. It’s a mind game. Tell him that you feel that you tend to get over issues quickly and resume talking…whereas when he’s upset…you get the silent treatment for a longer period…and that this hurts you (if it does). Talk it out and reach a compromise.
It could also be that your husband’s “silent treatment” is his way of taking a break from a stressful situation. Some people…don’t like to fuel arguments. Instead they prefer to change the subject or take a break from the person and cool down. Maybe he’s trying to cool down during this “silent treatment”…because he fears that dwelling on an issue would make it worse. That’s something to consider. But, yeah, if your’re disturbed about it…discuss it with him.