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You are a jerk :o
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if a silly phrase gives u da shivers, then todd plz dun get married. u might end with electric shocks in da institution 
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marrying for money is cheap thing to do. My concept is, if u are tying a knot then ur partner should be ur soulmate not the one who can provide you only financial security.
Najim you are absolutely right, but my problem is she wants me to covert to Islam.
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Thank you
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Are you talking about kinky intimacy with electrical tools?
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Oh so u r not a muslim?..that explains it all!
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If love is blind,
and marriage is an institution,
is marriage an institution for the blinds?
If marriage is an institution for the blind, and love is blind, and you're in love then you can join the institution nah :p
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Explains what? The fact that he has a girlfriend? Or the fact that he is debating commitment? Please remember the lady he's calling his GF is a muslim. And I think every human being has the right to think about whether or not they are ready for marriage. (Todd hasn;t told us how long he's been seeing her)
Todd..the decision to get married is indeed a tough one...are you ready to be a husband and someday a father? Are you mentally, emotionally and physically ready to sacrifice, work hard and make it work...yes it is hard...
BUT...deciding who to marry shouldn't be so tough, I think you'd just know, when you have the right person in front of you, you'd just know, marrying her will give you a sense of peace.
As for the conversion, if you truly believe that you can accept the principles of Islam and live up to them with the best of your abilities then go for it. But if you're going into it half heartedly then you'll just start to resent her and your decision after a while
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says it all, in other words u mean u can afford to do zina but for u nikkah is expensive ?
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And having GB/BF in Islam is not allowed atleast not in Islam haan dont know about moderate one.
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oh great..
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u r jumping to conclusions very immaturely and immediately, how old are you? 12?
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and what exactly do you mean by that
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Kiddo, this is not your domain so don't go there
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Todd..the decision to get married is indeed a tough one...are you ready to be a husband and someday a father? Are you mentally, emotionally and physically readt to sacrifice, work hard and make it work...yes it is hard
BUT...deciding who to marry shouldn't be so tough, I think you'd just know, when you have the right person in front of you you'd just know, marrying her will give you a sense of peace.
As for the conversion, if you truly believe that you can accept the principles of Islam and live up to them with the best of your abilities then go for it. But if you're going into it half heartedly then you'll just start to resent her and your decision after a while
Thanks LK for your kind words of wisdom here. I am not that kind of person who follows the masses. Instead I make my own decisions and follow what I believe is right. No matter if it is accepting Islam as a religion or having to propose my GF. The biggest question here is commitment. You are bounding yourself… be it religion or marriage or worse come worse -> seeing Susrealis every weekend. I just don't want to accept things because it is a requirement. Question here is, am I truly able to understand Islam to accept it and got for it for the rest of my life? not just because it is a requirement from the person I love with passion.
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Todd, you're maybe too young to realise that fun does not last a whole life...but women realise it sooner...and i've seen guys devastated cause their gf left them because they had not the gutts to settle down with them and later these guys had just regrets, and their eyes to cry...
so apart from what religion think abou this wohle issue, at a personal level, you have to ask yourself if she is the woman of your life...if yes, take wommitment with her....if not, you can let her go
back to religion...she is muslim, so she will want to raise your kids under islam, you got to be ok with it, so convert yourself....ifyou think this is too big a change for you, and you won't like life afterwards....i guess she is not the one for you, and you can let her move on in her life...
every step is life is a choice that is more or less painfull...we can't have it all
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Love is not an institution for curtain accesories.
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Todd unlike everyone I dont have a girlfriend 
actually i have no advise for you
I just want to say
good luck and best wishes in your venture for wisdom:flower2:
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Just a q, u have a gf because…….. well I m sure coz u were looking for a life partner rite? Well now that u have found her y would u even think like that. I cant believe talking about raising ur kids, ur future, meeting ur inlaws is scaring u. Its all part of a life u would have to go through sooner or later. Maybe ur still too young to get married or ur just not mentally ready for it.
Well I m sorry I don’t have any better advice for u and I m not married either but I know so many people who are married and living their lives happily and are loving all the excitement they are going through in their new life :)
Anyway good luck with whtever step u take :k: