Re: I am single but reserved...
Wow you people are a very judgemental set of individuals. No wonder the ummah is in such dire straits if people just concentrate on what is wrong and not help a person in need out. Talk about pathetic. So much for kindness and tolerance.
Marriage is an institution for those who don't believe in marriage. I have heard this tirade for ages. So what if it is an institution? What is wrong with it being an institution? The reason most westerners have a problem with marriage is that they don't want to offer the commitment and they believe it is an arachic form of religious indoctrination.
What you need to find out is do you believe it?
As for love being blind. It is. You over look the faults in your loved ones more than anybody else. I am just surprised people are so easily influenced by the cliches in a negative aspect. Love being blind is not a bad thing. After all justice is blind does that mean the connatation is negative? In this case justice being blind is positive and love is definitely a positive emotion.
You in my opinion should have 4 or 5 questions which you need to answer.
- Will it work? Will your marriage work?
- Will you be able to convert for her?
- Will you be able to be loyal etc.
- Is it something you want. Do you want to marry her.
If you hesitate on any of these matters to a great deal you are not ready. A personal normally knows their limits consciously or subconsciously. Just do what you feel is right and not what you might think may happen somewhere down the line.
Marriage is an institution. A positive one. After all no man can tolerate his wife or girl sleeping around with other men. Love is blind but that again is a good thing. It means unconditional loyalt etc.
Don't fall for the stereotypes that plague society about everything that is linked to religion being negative.