Re: i am sad and hurt..
cute ainee: i m not sure how to deal this situation. they way you proceeded with your husband was ok in my eyes.
it looks like he has some work related issue. you may ask him when he feel more comfortable. try to make him your friend first before considering him as husband.
husband can never be a friend and i have known this since i got married..he is very critical since he is my husband..
I understand how frustrating daily life is for you since you’re so restricted in going out without your husband due to local laws. I can understand your need to want to go out once he’s home.
On the flip side…I can also understand that your husband must be frustrated too b/c he works all day long…come home exhausted and wanting to relax…and yet once home, he has to go out again to take you to places. I imagine he never had to do any of this before marriage.
You’ve only been married for 1 year and sounds like it’s been a major change for both of you (ie. you having to totally depend on him to even go out to buy groceries…and him having to be so responsible for another person on a daily basis).
I think a 2 month “vacation” to Pakistan for you is a good idea. It’ll give you a break from living a life where you can’t step outside the house without your husband. Those 2 months will give you a chance to go out as much as you want…and also will give you a chance to see your family/friends after a year. And those 2 months will also give your husband time to relax, re-group his thoughts…and even give him a chance to miss you a bit.
hmmm..
Ofcourse it’s your husband’s responsibility to provide for you and he is not doing any ehsan on you! But you also have to be supportive and understanding, maybe he is having it tought at work? Talk to him about it and figure out if he has any issues at work.
I suggest you also try to make some friends there and take up a hobby so that you have something to keep yourself busy
he does not have any work related issues…its just that he is a sleeping beauty and he loves to sleep sleep sleep and sleep…whenever he gets time,he sleeps and sleeps for hours and hours…and the reason he doesnt want to take me to that event is that he wants to sleep at home..