My instinct was to slap her silly, yet I only managed to stare at her in disbelief. My second reaction was to confirm her notion of what being on a diet meant as I thought she had just heard the word from someone and thought it to be something different. Her answer “I don’t eat as my tummy will get big”
What on earth do I say to a 6 year old lass who thinks she needs to be on a diet? She in under wieght as it is, yet she actually believes that she needs to be on a diet. Iv worked with children for a long time, yet I actually have no answer for this one.
Well is she really overweight or is she just a cute lil chubby wubby baby
Nvm, i re-read it: you said she’s underweight. Well, how is her mother? Is she obsessed with her weight or her daughter’s? Is the family desi? People told my mother ot put me on a diet when I was five years old I think you oughta slap the mother (if she’s at fault) silly for putting such stupid ideas into the girls’ head.. this kind of crap can wreck a kid, and ruin their self esteem for a long long time..
She’s probably got a skinny, diet obsessed mother at home. It’s sad how grown up’s addictions and obsessions can effect their kids Try talking 2 her parents… the kids needs professional help.
Yeah.. i wanna work out my issues before i have kids and infect my kids iwht this crap.. but actually its not always the mtoher.. like my mom she was naturally thin before and after marriage, but u know after shaadi she slowly balooned, esp after having me.. she had some health problems too.. but i never saw her go crazy dieting or exercising.. however, other ppl did bug me, even when i was 6, 7, 8 yrs old, esp when i hit puberty, at the age of 10 they were telling me i'd never get married n no1 will find me attractive enuff to marry me.. :(
It's scary Miss_M. I mentioned this before on GS, but my friend's daughter who is currently in Grade 1 has already stopped eating her lunch at school cause she's scared of becoming fat. Now I don't know about you, but back in the old days when I was little girl, I started skipping lunch due to the whole "i'll be fat if I eat" syndrome when I was in Grade 8 and that lasted all the way through high school. This new generation of kids have caught on a lot quicker.
Flashback: I was teased ... I was the fat kid in elementary school, although when I look at my photos, I wasn't fat at all. Kids are just really mean and it is psychologically damaging ... it really is .... :(
It isn't necessarily something that is happening at home. Like my friend's daughter for example, she's so cute and slim and nobody in her family ever criticizes her looks or anything like that and they certainly aren't diet freaks .... but you can't control what these kids hear at school. Bachay these days are becoming more obsessed with weight and it's starting at an earlier age. If they see kids picking on someone who is chubby/fat, they don't want to be that child so they think they need to diet in order to keep this from happening to them.
It's scary, and honestly, I don't know how parents protect their kids or make them learn to accept themselves despite what they see and hear out in the world. They need to do this themselves, and it's a long battle with your self-esteem but with positive messages from loved ones, friends and family, it can be achieved.
Man this is scary! A mother is responsible, all daughtes look at their moms as role models. Women shouldnt do anything that their daughters can easilly copy... it includes starving aswell :(
Now im wondering, would this happen in a madrassah/Islamic school? All girlz wearing burkahs, that certainly eliminates someone calling someone pudgy or skinny or watever right? Kids won't make fun of each other coz teachers are teacing that on the day of judgement, thier tongue will be ripped out and dragged around or something right? Right right? My cousins, who all go to Islamic school, told me something like that, that their teacher said if they curse, this is the punishmen thtey will get. ... Hmm
Oh goodness me! It is not the girls mother at all!! She has never been on a diet or is wieght conscious about anything. School aged children don’t actually look at their parents as role models anymore. It’s always either the teacher or peers. This isn’t about her mother at all. Her mother never allows her children to skip a meal or anything, nor has she ever prevented her children of eating any kind of food. They usually always have a very healthy balanced diet.
This 6 year old lass skips lunch at school and at home will say she is not feeling well and that her tummy hurts so she doesn’t have to eat. It’s only when her mum mentioned going to the doctor that she said she was on a diet.
Baddreams, Blushing Vision and Snickers, you lot all owe this girls mother an apology! she is by far the most amazing mother any child could ever have and would no way on god’s earth allow any of her children to starve themselves. And no shes not over wieght herself so you can’t say that they girl doesnt want to look like her mother.
I'm telling you Missy, it's the kids at school that are influencing her. You should go and talk to the teacher if you can so that they can talk to the kids in the classroom, try and teach them about weight issues and their self-esteem.
It's true, it's not just the mom. I have a very petite mumani who has a very delicate, tiny daughter who hasn't had much of an appetite since she was born. Now she is five.
My mamoon says it's good she doesn't eat much because he prefers skinny girls.
At this age she understands these ideas and will begin to internalize them. It's really scary.
^ that is so nasty being happy taht ur child doesn't eat just bcoz he prefers skinny girls!!!!!!!!
yes but the 6 yr old is def being effevted by school mayb she has other social issues like making friends is a problem!!!!!!!!!
so she feels something is wrong wiv her......
but ahve u noticed alot of the girly cartoons are always mentioning girls on diets?????????
Iv already done that, but I need to use some sort of reverse psychology on this child to get her own self esteem up. She such a gem of a lass, its her stupid desi friends at school who tell her her that she needs to look like those plastic bollywood actresses in order to dance like they do! She doesnt even watch bollywood movies, but i know for a fact that all her mates are in to them. I guess she just wants to fit in with the crowd innit. Bless her.
Being skinny becomes an identifying trait for many of these girls. Many feel their skinniness is one of the few things to be proud of and they become known for their skinniness -- it becomes their identity. Since she is 6, it may not have progressed this far, but you'll have to make her understand that she has other defining traits. She's the funniest girl or smartest girl in class.
If you are obese CrashDummie, then you need to change your lifestyle, eat healthier and exercise regularly. Promoting starvation amongst little girls who haven’t even developed yet, potentially damaging their bodies in the long run, is not the way to be slim.
I’m sorry but that sounds kinda sick to me !!! Unless he meant that no one will find bigger girls attractive and he’ll never be able to get rid of her/get married off.. What happens if his daughter isn’t as petite and tiny as his wife? Is he going to stop loving her? get grossed out by the sight of her? etc etc
I think you oughta slap the mother (if she’s at fault) silly for putting such stupid ideas into the girls’ head.. this kind of crap can wreck a kid, and ruin their self esteem for a long long time..
Try talking 2 her parents… the kids needs professional help.
