they want me to be jealous of them.
Some one very close to me, family member/members are very rich. I am not jealous of them as Allah is giving them their share and i am getting my share. I am happy with what i have. but they pick me for not being rich as them or not having designer clothes as them. Some times it gets very insulting.
i try to buy designer for my husband and kids but i do kanjoose at myself. but its not that i dont have anything to wear. i just spend less on myself. for my hubby and kids i buy designer.
for example one of them asked me that i dont get my hair straightened because i dont have money. i was shocked at this question. money is not big factor of my nt getting done as i have hair thinning due to PCOS and i am getting treatment for that. and dont want to reuin what i have. i was so shocked at this question.
and recently they laughed at me as i dont have designer eid suit.
I dont know how to deal with them. now i am terrified at facing them. i can not answer them back.
they are at fault not you. its so strange that they view your decision to spend wisely as you not having money. even if someone is making less why should anyone be insulting them with such questions/comments.
may be they are indeed jealous on your skills to spend wisely on yourself and maintaining a balance. when people are jealous of someone's ability they usually make such demeaning comments. you should not be bothered about such people and lead your life the way you prefer. it is all about being content with yourself and not about conforming to the standards/expectations of such senseless people. and btw why judge how much someone makes on the basis of the clothes they wear or the car they drive or the kind of salon they go to. that is just ridiculous.
and the way you spend your money doesn't always co-relates with how much you make. the BOD member where my brother works, drives 80's model of accord. not that he cant afford the latest models or that he is kanjoos with his money but that is the choice he made himself according to his preference and that is what i think counts.
Your best course of action is to stay away from these people, or at least keep contact to a minimum. This has happened to me too - my dad did not make as much money as my other uncles and as a result my sis and I could never afford designer clothes or makeup growing up. Guess what, none of that matters today. What matters is what you make of your life. These relatives who teased us are exactly where we left them - trying to find happiness in clothes and jewelry and designer shoes.
yaar don't be jealous. Think of all the people jealous of all you have and be thankful. Like anger, hate and greed jealousy will have the biggest impact on you. Eating you from inside. Aise hone mat do. Apne jealousy ko harao and tell your jealousy who is boss. You are boss of your emotions.
Can you distance yourself from them and get closer to those friends/family who are not so materialistic. Jab upar jayenge apni daulat leke jayenge kya? i dont think so