Re: I am...mad?
^ well yes, of course its getting hurt! why wouldn't it?
thats a pretty mean comment to make, especially coming from someone who wants to marry you. being honest is one thing, but to the point of hurting someone's feelings and throwing them into this self-doubt is ridiculous. its not like he doesn't know her well enough to know exactly how she'd respond to his comments.
if my husband had said, well i don't really think you're that pretty, i'd ask him why he was with me. yes, we'd all love to think its solely about feelings and emotions and intelligence, etc. and it is those things too, but if you love someone and you look at them, you definitely don't think, "hrm... don't have pick of the bunch here, lookswise".
biologically, we're all tuned into choosing mates that we can breed with and physical features do form a part of that attraction.
for him to say that to her sounds really weird, frankly... is he trying to test you to see what he can get away with? if you'll still marry him after? is he trying to tell you to shove off but doesn't have the guts to specify that? is he just stupid and thinks its actually a good thing to be this honest? whatever the reason, his comment was mean and uncalled for. how would he feel if she told him she loved him but really, he isn't the sharpest knife in the drawer?