Re: i am infuriated, hes getting on my last thinly sliced nerves.
you know what they say! they say that if you stick to someone they'll want to get away from you BUT IF YOU GET AWAY FROM THEM THEY'LL WANT TO GET CLOSER.... Stop talking to him, or calling him or texting him for a few days!!! BAJIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII it's going to work!! just do as i say! after a few days he'll be begging for a conversation! muahahah..
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wow, lol, cmon, he needs to put an alarm on to text his wife, might as not not bother!!!!!!ha.
Why not, if it serves your purpose :)
Hubby and I both work and honestly, we do not text or call each other at all, while he does call his parents from work.
By the way, how are you spending your days? What do you do all day?
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you need to find something to do for YOU which doesnt involve your husband, go shopping chill out with friends talk on the phone to your friends go to yoga go for a swim get out the house!
Also why dont you play the playstation with him?
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This is a classic IRC chat transcript between a guy and a girl, it explains EVERYTHING:
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as someone said, go out for a walk & take him with you......he'll be away from PS & have no choice but to talk to you :@
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Nadz, I think its a guy thing. I was going through the same exact thing. My hubby and I would chat away on phone for hours before we got married. Now, he sometimes will share a story or two from his work otherwise after coming back from home he is glued to the tv and then its laptop and then sleep. I do get annoyed to the fact that there is no Us time in between. Being a girl and only having him to talk to I would get annoyed because I want to talk about my day and such and he will be too busy watching tv or a cricket game online. Grrh.
So, now I also get myself busy in other things like my studies, house chores or GS facebook. lol
and every now and then he will be like hows this? or ask questions about my day and all. It works because then they realize that we aren't talking.
I also hate T.V especially the shows that he watches and you can blab on and on he will not be listening. Also, i hate cricket, I hate his cricinfo.com and everything else he prefers to do instead of giving me time. lol
So, like others said, find yourself hobby try ignoring him a bit and don't demand or complain about time for few days. Trust me it will make him worry.
Also, another thing is when you are not married you both have a lot of things that you can talk about apart from daily routine such as a party you went to, your day, whine about people blah blah. When you are married you both are experiencing things together living together so the amount of things you can talk decreases.
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jst ignore him for somtime ... everything will goona b normal soon ...
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be less of a drama queen, have something of quality to talk to him bout and watch him put away his console and take some more interest in you :)
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Nadz- This is definitely a guy thing they are so clueless when it comes to womens feelings. (I don't mean every guy here before anyone gets offended) I agree with the other posters is there someone you can spend time with during the day. I know that the last month of pregnancy you are tired, feeling heavy and exhausted and to have your hubby come home and not even spend time talking to you will make you feel like what am i doing this for. The best thing you can do is to communicate with him let him know how you feel, if you cant do it by talking to him, write him a letter, an email something to get your point across cos pretty soon your little baby will be here and things will be hectic and busy.
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in short u r making so much efforts here lik creatin this thread n readin the replies n commentin over replies trust me if u make 1/2 of this all effort to ur hubby for convincing him by sharing ur issues n request him for everything tht wht u want ... i gues ur prob might b solved now ...
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He comes home from work and wants to play playstation, even on days off he has to play, i would like some attention, talk to me, i want hour long conversations, i want someone to talk to me, all the time, he says to tum baatein karo na.....its infurating, im not interviewing him, i want a conversation, before marriage he would talk for hours even at night, now ok he has to go work in the mornings, but even if the next day his day off, he can only manage an hour or so.
Before marriage your husband was a single man with a lot less responsibilities. Now he's a married man with a full time job and a pregnant wife. Soon he'll be responsibile for a child. He has a lot more stress in his life now compared to before marriage. Before marraige he could/did talk to your for "hours" at night b/c he didn't have as many things on his mind. And I'm assuming that before marriage you two did not live together so he didn't see you every single morning or had no idea what you were "up to" without talking to you at night. Now he lives with you, sees you every single night and every single morning.
As some of the other posters have mentioned...it's a common man behavior. He comes home from work and he wants to relax. I'm assuming he's talking to people at work all day...so when he comes home, he wants to "zone out" and not worry about anything for a little while. My SO is the same way. Once home from work, he watches TV or will go online and does not like to be disturned. That's his "me" time. Your husband had plenty of "me" time before marriage and now anytime he's home, you're there too (again I'm assuming you didn't live with him before marriage).
I'm not saying that what's he doing is "right".....I'm just saying that he's not hurting you on purpose.
You wrote on your post that you want someone to talk to you.....I gather from some of the other replies that you're home all day. Do you not have any friends that you can call or hang out with? Do you have any hobbies that keep you busy? Have you looked into joining some local groups...maybe some groups where you can meet other pregnant women?
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Are my pregnancy hormones still imbalanced? My husband, yes he is a good man, nice n all yada yada, but he is annoying me. He comes home from work and wants to play playstation, even on days off he has to play, i would like some attention, talk to me, i want hour long conversations, i want someone to talk to me, all the time, he says to tum baatein karo na.....its infurating, im not interviewing him, i want a conversation, before marriage he would talk for hours even at night, now ok he has to go work in the mornings, but even if the next day his day off, he can only manage an hour or so.
at work, i expect a text at lunch, he does himself, but he doesnt at times, nowadays he has free international minutes so he is ringing home, he can ring pakistan but he cant text me which take sless than 5 secs, he has to read namaz as well which he does i know, but he cant text. god, i know io may be irrational here,. but is it too much to ask for some attention, if hes playing playstation or whatever, he doesnt want anyone disturbing him, god help me if i go into labour at that momment. while if im busy watching my fave tv prog, i doubt he would understand if i didnt as much as look at him when he came thru the door.grrrr.
He seems like a usual husband to me
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OH MY GODDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
DO people think i dont go out the house, lol oh god. I am out and about, shopping, chatting to friends, reading books, going to my hsop appointment which i have to twice a week, going to antenatal classes, and just going out, i get sick of styaing at home all day, husband says aram karo, tv deko....he thinks thats fun for me,. i hate sitting home all day glued to the screen, esp as before preg, i was active, either studying, or working, or going to the gym all day to lsoe weight, and shopping and all that, now i have NOTHING to do. no studies, no work, nothing, my mates all work, and none are married, not preg, they all busy, and to be honest, i hate watching tv all day, an hour a day is max......im sooo impatient now that instead og etting books from the library to read, i end up buying them, ive spent 100quid in the last 3months buying tons of books and reading them back to front, cos the library dont have them and it takes time to reserve them....so i just buy buy buy, to make my time go quicker.
and seriously, i can chat to friends, be busy all day, i still want to talk to my husband, thats the sort of person i am. i need an hour atleast from him just to talk to HIM, no one else. im not bored, i just want my husband to talk to me for a while without having cricket/playstation/laptop glued to his head...
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i was so impatient, that i ended up paying 3pounds for a samosa ( a ready made one from a shop and yesss 3poundssssssssssssss) than actually buy 25 FROZEN samaosa for the same price and come home and fry them. im losing my patience.......and mind by the looks of it.!!!
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tht samosa mgt contain som gold water over it ...isnt ?
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tht samosa mgt contain som gold water over it ...isnt ?
god knows, but it was delicious....
seperate note-he DID make an effort to rub my back and chat to me today...sigh if only men didnt need to be spoon fed ..
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things work out for u ... thts amazing news ... he will b back on the right path soon ... jst feed him whtever wants over iftare n sehre ... :)
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things work out for u ... thts amazing news ... he will b back on the right path soon ... jst feed him whtever wants over iftare n sehre ... :)
he actually forbids me to go in the kitchen now, since ive been pregnant, i cant cook to save my life, its like even simple stuff is going wrong, tastes wrong. so now we eat mainly from mums, or outside, think his famous words were ramzaan mein to zeher mat khilao......so im off sehri and iftari duty heeeeheeee
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'ramzaan mein to zeher mat khilao`
wht exactly tht mean .... wht i get is somthg lik u cant cook well ...i dont knw ... i m confused
u mst b on bed rest otally ...thts great .. aaram ker lainnn, life mai araam bhoot kam logon ko naseeb hota hai ... u shd b thankful to Allah ...
Y would u feed him zeher ... ?
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'ramzaan mein to zeher mat khilao`
wht exactly tht mean .... wht i get is somthg lik u cant cook well ...i dont knw ... i m confused
u mst b on bed rest otally ...thts great .. aaram ker lainnn, life mai araam bhoot kam logon ko naseeb hota hai ... u shd b thankful to Allah ...
Y would u feed him zeher ... ?
LOL, HUH, ok hes joking, i dont literally give him zeher, i mean before i was preg, well actually before 6 month preg, cooking was good, now since 6months until now, cooking is just reall bad, dont know where my minds gone, i have no andaaza anymore, even things like bhindi i am burning, where before i would make it really good.....so we gave up and he said lets eat some proper food in ramzaan, dont want u killing me before eid....ITS A JOKE....