Re: i am going through something werid
zayma
u are in a tough spot. peopel in the thread have given you good feedback, I concur, most importantthing is that your fiance should be 10000% on your side, if that is the case nothing else really amtters and is icing on the cake.
since u are marrying someone from your nanhiyal and not your dadhiyaal that may be the issue. maybe yer daadi wanted you to marry someone from your dad's side.. who knows for whatever reasons.
No need to bend over backwards and win her over with kindness, that BS rarely works. explain your concerns toy your folks and have them be your champions.
Now what I am going to say next is something you may or may not want to do. It may backfire, it takes guts and it has to be done right. I have done it and as tough as it was, it did the trick. Confront the person in private, tell them to back off. in the end if they want to raise hue and cry about it, admit that you talked and expressed your concerns to her, but not to anything else. done right the person may just get off your back, done wrong you may give them real ammo against you.
Of course another option is to have an elder bring it up in a family setting, so there are witnesses present, goal is to try to put a stop to it. It is amazing how people who talk a lot of smack duc for cover when confornted by their crap in a group setting. she being your daadi its going to be tough though. phuppi, chachi would have been easier.
easiest route...thank your fiance and his mum for being your champions...use your energies to impress them rather than this lady who is trying t harm you.