i accept i am wrong but it doesn't help

NJMasti · January 9, 2010, 2:14pm

Wow, welcome to my world.

I have a similar history, although not quite as extreme. My mom has called me names when I was growing up and Dad made a comment once about how I was too skinny and he was getting comments about that from his friends. Both of my parents have really outgrown that and are much more supportive now, and I probably take better care of my appearance now than I did in the past. Well, only for work. If I’m not at work, I don’t care about putting on make-up or doing my hair so I look as I look, and I don’t give a *%$#.

Here are some suggestions:

Write out 10 great qualities about yourself and remind yourself of those qualities.

Get some hobbies.

Go out with friends who DO compliment you and your appearance.

Focus on developing yourself as a human being, and work on accomplishing things at school and in your career - you can generate a great deal of self-esteem through that.

Appearances are whatever. Not one of us women looks amazing without some make-up or grooming. There are a few who look gorgeous when they get out of bed, but they still take good care of their skin and grooming overall to look like that (moisturizing, waxing, plucking, facials, manicures/pedicures, etc). So work on those things.

Excercise and eat healthy - that alone can make your skin glow. When I fixed my diet and exercise, my acne goes away, scars heal faster, I sleep better and my face looks more relaxed - and your natural beauty just shines. If you’re not eating right/not working out/ not doing normal routine grooming / are not rested - you will look your worst.

Make-Up. It does wonders.

wow PCG this is very much RV’s class advise!!! Good job