say you’re out doing groceries, there’s an old person ahead of you in line struggling to pay for groceries (their card was declined, they can’t find the cash etc–it’ can happen).
If the amount isn’t too much, would you pay for their groceries? or do you think the person’s pride is more important and won’t help?
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I would offer to pay, and tell him that he can pay back later.
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you can manage the pride angle by saying you can cover and they can mail you a cheque later
now if it is a small amount and they don't pay back, such is life..
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pride??
my money is more important…
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I would offer to pay and just suggest they pay it forward. If they insist on paying me a cheque, I'd tell them they can mail me a cheque.
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I might do that. A few weeks ago, i was standing behind a couple of teenaged girls at Subway...and one of them was asking for the price of some cookies. It appeared as if she didn't have enough...so I was about to look in my purse to help her out...but she soon managed it. Of course, groceries cost far more than Subway cookies...but i might help someone out with the former.
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well this actually did happen to me some time ago, the amount was really very small (about $2-3 actually)--he was just buying some fruit, so I thought I'd pay for it cz but eventually he came up with the $ for it.
Now to switch it around, if the situation were reversed, how would you feel? would you be happy someone helped you out or would your pride be wounded? Is this one of those things that you do what you think is right or do you act in a way that you would want to be treated one day?
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My pride wouldn't be hurt if someone helped me out. I think I help people out quite a bit...so when it comes my way...I think of it as what goes around comes around. Although there have been a couple of times where I thought I couldn't find my debit card...but nobody offered to help, lol....and that's alright as well...there's a lesson to be learned in that inconvenience. As for your last question....sometimes what you think is right and acting in a way that you want to be treated can be the same thing. Like you might believe that helping someone or standing up for them is the "right" thing to do...and you might also do it because that's how you yourself would want to be treated.
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I've done it a few times. They appreciate it they always offer to take my number so they can pay me back I usually let it pass.
I did once queue up and I forgot my wallet. I was was sooo embarrassed. Lol.
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exactly the same
I would offer to pay, and tell him that he can pay back later.
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I'd do it.
I can't remember where I was but I was buying a pack of frapp's. I had a bill the cashier couldn't break so was fishing in my bag for my card and the guy behind me just paid for it.
That was so sweet. I was left confused for a second too...did he want something now? Isn't that sad? Someone does something out of the goodness of their heart and we think they want something. I said thank you a million times and left.
I think most of all these random acts of kindness open others' hearts to do the same for someone else. :)
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Never happened so far. If I believe the person in question could afford it, I would leave them well enough alone. If I felt the person is truly broke and out of luck, I will ask for their permission to cover the items.
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Ha....forgot $2-$3.......I was once in a situation where a stranger gave me $70 to bail me out! And they didn't even want that money back! Instead, I was told to "return the favor" by showing kindness to someone else.
Yes, I would definately do it. I'm a big believer in karma. I treat people the way I'd want them to treat me. Throughout the years, I've had plenty of strangers show me kindness when I needed it. Although my life is far from perfect....today I've been blessed with a comfortable life and am in a position where I can show kindness to others. To be honest....I would only give what I can afford....and no, I wouldn't ask them to pay me back. I'd only ask that they remember the help they received...and show that same generosity to someone else in the future.
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I've done it a few times, never had it happen to me. Probly cos there's too many poor people around me :(
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I'd point and laugh.
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why not. I dont think its much a matter of pride for them if they need it or something. If they are willing to accept help/favor from me I will. And I am sure I wont be doing it with having a return in my mind except for that from Allah. If they mention to return, I would agree, (this time not to let their pride hurt). A chance for a good deed is more of a favour to yourself, than anybody else.
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i will decide not to help. well i get confused at such situations
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I don't think I'd help. That would be really embarrassing for the receiver.