In one of the talk show on TV the whole audience were cursing the lady who got married twice and for not living with her daughter now.
What is so wrong about a parent getting married again if the kids r grown up now? for whatever reason, dont s/he has the right to do so? Neither the law nor the religion prohibits it, then why do we?
My question, if either of ur parent is getting married to someone else, would u attend the wedding happily? as u r truely happy for him/her cos thats the man/woman s/he wants to get married?
As far as I know, divorce is not prohibited in Islam, but then again it's not encouraged.
I would definately not be happy if either of my parents married someone else. That would mean that the person they marry would legally be my mother/father, and it wouldn't even be my choice. A biological mother/father or someone you've grown up with (for 18 years of your life) can never be replaced.
Also, I think it's horrible what the kids have to go through from their parents being divorced. Lots of my friend's parents have been divorced, and none of them are okay with it.
I think getting divorced should be a last resort, if considered at all (especially if there are kids involved).
Phati : Phati i never said divorce, whatever the reason was, saperation, death etc. So basicaly ur only reasoning is “u” wont be happy. so ur parent shouldnt remarry. thats some justice to his/her wish
If my mother or father were widowed or divorced, I would want them to be happy, and if they wished to remarry I would encourage that. I am sure it would be difficult for me to adjust at first, but I would try to put my mother's happiness above mine in the situation.
Phatima - this person would never become your legal father. Why do you think that? Legally, a step-parent would have no more rights over you than anyone else, either Islamically or in a court of law. Your biological parents remain your legal parents.
Children should not behave so selfishly in these situations. After all, look at our Prophet (saw). He married again after being widowed, and most of his wives were widows and at least one divorcee.
In my opinion, these days marriage is nothing but a joke – people, the culture and media has made it that way. Be it a man or a woman they get married and then realize that their partners aren’t the ones and then they get divorced – I know a lot of girls who got divorced on their honeymoons – in olden times the word marriage it self was respected a lot but now its like clothes you wear one you take it of and wear something else if you don’t like what you were previously wearing.
I am not saying that the woman who got married again didn’t have the right of course she did – to support her daughter, herself and obviously be it a man or a woman – one needs the support and love of their partners to live life happily. So I am not against it since even Hazrat Mohammad’s (S.A.W) wife khadija was a widow when he met her. So this it self shows that even if you are divorced, or widow (er) you have the right to get married again.
Coming to the part that what if my parents get separated or God forbid for any reason one of them have to re marry someone else then personally I know that be it my mother or father they wont be happy with someone else after being with each other for about 21 years now. but if you want to know how it will effect me then well I wont like it if my father brings in another woman nor will I like it if my mother marries someone else – not at all, if due to some issues they do get married then I wont create a scene or stop either of them but I wont accept the newcomers at all.
Whats so rong with the lady's remarriage....considering this wasnt the reason for the breakup of the family....
What if it wasnt her choice to het a divorce....I know somebody whose husband left her and her 3 kids to get married to his brother's step niece...How fair is that for the lady.She spent 18 years with him....abd he got love struck and walked out on all of his family....Now how should this lady lead a life raising 3 kids on her own(wwhich she is doing remarkably), but doesnt want to get remarried again for the effect it would have on the kids....I talked to her saying that she should all go for marrying again...Even the middle daughter is very for it....Everybody deserves to be Happy...and to pursue it...
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