hymenoplasty

[Ask99]

Re: hymenoplasty

@X2

and what do u think about a relationship that has at its core a lie. and what do you think about the people. whether the girl has done something wrong or not, if the person she is marrying can not understand this and a lie has to be manufactured to make the wedding work then there is a problem at the foundation of the wedding. I am not sure what kind of person has to inspect the sheets to validate the quality of goods

Now assuming that someone who goes for this procedure has a different history, tell me is it fair to lie to someone and present things differently. just because some men may be boating about their victories, does that in any way shape or form justify lying to one particular man?

I do agree that a marraige based on a lie is totally wrong and that is why I suggested that she go have a talk with her husband to be..or else let it be(meaning the operation)..If the truth (whatever that it really is) cannot be taken by the husband to be…then I would say that being in such a relationship may not be worth it.Yet at the same time I think about our culture’s views..A woman is considered as"impure goods" if they believe she is not as pure as they come, while the husband no matter how many flings he had..donot count and just is considered as the “coming of Age” for him, while a woman is reduced to looking for ways to try to redeem her proof of her chastity.All in all it does not justify for covering up a lie but then again..you cannot change a whole culture’s view point.Why is she reduced to such a way? What is making her think of going to such extreme measures…surely its not appearances only.
Just look at the reaction from this thread..people are all so ready to decide on what she did or didnot do for her!!