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men are always attracted to gays and bis.
honey- two thumbs up on your forwardness and honesty..it's so refreshing.
you can’t see me but I’m doubling over in pain at just the thought of it
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honey- two thumbs up on your forwardness and honesty..it's so refreshing.
Yes, you're right Sarah - you get a lot of eulogies. Must be the damn looks.
I came in this thread thinking Sarah was saying Hi to all the Men out there...hence Hymen. So i just came in to say Hywomen.
whats your excuse, Roman?
I know its probably the wrong thread to ask this question, but Sarah, do you mind telling us what is the meaning of your signature?
Anything to do with the Hymen
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Sorry really bad taste please forgive me.
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** the Rain sings**
can u help me i’m bent
i’m so scared that i’ll never, get put back together
…yea yer breakin me in, and this is how we begin..
sorry, that broken stuff just reminded me of that song.
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and your problem is?
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Sanam, why so must venom towards others? DO your friends often refer to you as “…but she has a nice personality”
The Myth of the HymenContinues**
Most young women in America havenever given thought to the status of their hymen, a thin membrane covering the opening of the ****** with which most infant girls are born. While an intact hymen that bleeds when broken on a bride's wedding night has traditionally been regarded as proof ofher virginity, this is a myth which has been disproven many times over in the twentieth century as the medical establishment has made it clear that:
- Some girls are born without a hymen;
- The hymen may tear naturally when a girl plays sports or engages in any physical activity;
- The hymen is not always smooth but tends to be perforated and that the perforations may get bigger and cause the hymen to break once a girl menstruates;
- The hymen can be broken by the use of tampons;
- The hymen may be very small or very elastic so that no breakage occurs at all (some women even become pregnant while their hymens are still intact);
- A hymen may not bleed when broken.
Given these facts, it is extremely sad that women all over the world are still expected to bleed on their wedding nights as proof that they are virgins and that they often pay severe consequences if they happen not to bleed, possibly being shamed and humiliated, instantly divorced or evenkilled. To avoid such disasters, women have resorted to various tricks to ensure that they bleed, including the use of animal blood in their private parts or even cutting themselves, while wealthier women often get gynecological exams before marriage and do hymen-repair surgery in the event that no hymen is found. There is so much confidence in the idea that an intact hymen proves virginity that the trend in many countries now is to have one's daughter "officially certified" as a virgin by a clinic. This is so embarassing for the girls that a number of them (most notably in Turkey) have committed suicide rather than be touched by strangers in this bizarre, invasive manner.
In Islam, there is no such need to prove one's virginity by bleeding on the wedding night. This is not to say, however, that it is not important that both the husband and wife should be virgins provided that they are entering into their first marriages. Sexual relationships outside the marital union are strictly prohibited in Islam and there are very serious punishments for men and women who violate this rule. It is actually very difficult to prove someone's adultery in Islam as there must be four witnesses to the act and this is seldom (if ever) achieveable. One may also choose to confess to his/her own adultery while a woman's adultery is considered automatically proven should she become pregnant out of wedlock. Married men who witness their wives committing adultery do not need three additional witnesses in court but may swear four times that they have seen the act. Islam is so fair in this case that the wife is allowed to confirm or refute her husband's accusation; if she claims innocence, she need only swear four times that she did notcommit the act, and she will not be punished.
The Islamic process for verifying adultery is very cautious simply because it is such a serious crime of which to accuse someone. In fact, it is a very big sin in Islam to falsely accuse someone of adultery, and the accuser is held accountable for slander under Islamic Law. Islam has discussed all aspects of adultery and fornication from definingthe terms to explaining how it is proven and how one is punished for them. In all the texts and historical references we have available to us, it is never mentioned that a woman must bleed inorder to prove her virginity or that there are any physical signs of virginity (such as an intact hymen) of which we should beaware. We only know that it is prohibited to accuse another human being of illegal sexual intercourse without having sufficient proof of that as described above. If a Muslim woman (or man, bythe way) is truly not a virgin and she chooses to lie about that,then she surely knows that she will face Allah with her lie onthe Day of Judgment. This alone is enough to make the vast majority of Muslims abstain from illegal sexual relationships.
Unfortunately, Islamic Law is not applied to its fullest in many of our Islamic nations, and the people who have religious knowledge are not always well coordinated with the people who have scientific or medical knowledge. Even worse, it only takes one or two people in positions of power to give wrong information, and lives are changed forever. This is what is happening in parts of the Muslimworld.
While a small percentage of women may deceive their husbands and families in this manner, the fact is that we cannot ignore or twist scientific facts in order to enforce morality. It seems like common sense that physical activity can stretch and tear the hymen which is, incidentally, not usually any thicker than a grape skin. As I researched this subject, I came across pictures of various types of hymens, and it is clear that no two women are exactly alike in how their hymens are formed. Some are perforated while some are smooth and elastic. Some girls are do not even have a hymen. So, to state the obvious: it is outrageous to use the hymen as a means by which to gauge the chasity of any woman.
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that’s me.. too nice..
or am I?
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would you consider settling for the SOB having to wash it in public if he puts up a display?