Re: Husbands, Wives, Mil(s), Dil’s etc. The Married family dynamics:
My first point above clearly stated that men should be responsible for keeping the harmony at their homes.
Time to grow balls is not when situation is out of control. It is before marriage or immediately after marriage when men should send the signals to both their mothers and wives that they have limits to stay within their territories and these territories should not be crossed to infringe upon each others rights.
Manliness of men is not in front of their mothers (or fathers), it is rather in front of any other adult who’s conduct is bad enough to warrant strong reaction.
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What kind of man is a man, who has to show his manliness to his own mother?**
It really does not make a grown up man mommy’s boy if he is yelled at (or even get a slap) from his mother. Actually a strong man will show great patience and would still respect his mother. The correct response is to laugh at it and keep the atmosphere pleasant. It really does not take his manliness away. After-all he got his ‘manliness’ from being raised as a strong man by her.
The benefit of it is that if his wife observes it, she will know that it is really not her position to be in the middle of mother and son.
Finally, mother is not just another adult. She has seen his balls even when they were about the size of a pea! 