Husbands, Wives, Mil(s), Dil's etc. The Married family dynamics:

[diwana]

Re: Husbands, Wives, Mil(s), Dil’s etc. The Married family dynamics:

@bisoux

On an interesting note did Allah not create a man and woman before any other relationship in the world

Not arguing just stating this since it was something interesting someone’s mother said once.

And both the man and woman were mother and father…of all mankind.

Not Son or DIL.

Hope you got the message.

@Reha

Agar bivi ko izzat nahin de saktay to shaadi mat karein…simple

I really need to see how its acceptable to be rude with your wife for your mother.

Where did I say it is acceptable to be rude to wife for mother?

@Reha

Diwana - your relationship with your mother is YOUR responsibility…not your wife’s to maintain.

She isn’t answerable nor responsible nor the casualty of your relationship with her.

Where did I say that? ( this issue can be discussed however)

@Reha

What good is having a son at all in desi society if he cannot be a man? Isn’t that why men are prized by their parents? Because the general impression is that men will **take care of their parents in their old age, **isn’t it?

Yes, men should take care of their parents in their old age. A noble act.

Did I say anything contrary to this earlier?

@Reha

So putting your mother and wife on opposite sides of you and then CHOOSING one means you’re a good son?

Why put them there in the first place? Is it very difficult to keep them apart?

No. It is very easy to keep them apart. It’s just that both keep coming back to each other and create a competitive environment to which men are dragged in to.

My first post was an effort to negate this behavior.

@Reha

How are mard and aurat each other’s libaas if one is hell bent on putting the other in its place?

No spouse should ever put each other in to her or his place. Agreed. Where did I say anything to contrary?

Reha! I get your points, but you are ‘‘preaching to the choir’’ for the most part.