But, most parents do not want to see their daughters struggling financially where every month keeping up with the bills is a stressful challenge on the couple.
Then she too must get off her ass and be willing to work.
Then she too must get off her ass and be willing to work.
Agreed - since the marriage is a partnership.
But parents think about other scenarios as well. If the couple has children, can the husband support the wife and the children if the wife stays home with the kids?
Agreed - since the marriage is a partnership.
But parents think about other scenarios as well. If the couple has children, can the husband support the wife and the children if the wife stays home with the kids?
BUT to pertain as such makes em shallow.
BUT to pertain as such makes em shallow.
I see things differently, I think considering salary makes the parents practical-minded.
How much he makes is not the sole or even the primary deciding factor. His decency, character, education, religious observance are far more important, but I'm not going to lie and say that his salary or future prospects are dismissed as irrelevant - it does come into the conversation as well.
Re: Husband's earnings
Thats where the education, ambition and character come in.
Education will get him in the door for future opportunities.
Ambition gives him the drive to succeed.
Character gives him the ehsaas needed to provide for his family.
But Sehrysh, you are right...parents usually dont want to give their daughter into a marriage where she has to work too hard. They are naturally going to want a comfortable life for her, what parent doesnt?
Re: Husband’s earnings
my comment wasn’t solely based on the discussion of ‘salary’.
Anyway i’ll leave it that, i may blog about this later perhaps. 
Parents usually dont want to give their daughter into a marriage where she has to work too hard. They are naturally going to want a comfortable life for her, what parent doesnt?
Hard worked never hurt anyone, not that i'm having an off day but this mentality/way of thought really stinks in my book, our teaching's are laughable, ie. because your mother had such, so should you. PLEASE!
Hard worked never hurt anyone, not that i'm having an off day but this mentality/way of thought really stinks in my book, our teaching's are laughable, ie. because your mother had such, so should you. PLEASE!
You're right Orphy, hard work never hurt anyone. But as parents, dont we want our kids to have a good life? Im not saying looking for riches is right but parents will naturally look for comfor for their girls, no? Them going overboard with this and demanding doctors and lawyers for their girls is a little off though, IMHO.