Husband's attention

[Paheli00]

Re: Husband’s attention

@Siren

I sometimes think about having a frank conversation with his family but I know that might be something that will cause irreparable damage to our relationship.

@Siren

He’s made it clear that if it ever came to choosing between us, he would chose them over me. He’s quick to anger and we were in a huge fight when he said it, but I do think he meant it.

What do you think you’re saving in this “relationship” by worrying about your husband and his family’s feelings? Your husband told you, the mother of his child, that if he had to choose, he would rather be with his blood family than you. Do you really think your husband has any respect or love for you specifically? Why do you think he stays married to you? Because he actually wants to be with you OR because he doesn’t want to lose access to your income?

The money issues are not anything new. You posted about it back in 2015. Nothing has changed. Nothing will change in the future. He never cared about you enough to make any changes to his behavior back then. And it’s pretty clear that the child is also not enough for him to change.

You might as well go have a frank conversation with his family and see anything changes in their behavior. Maybe they care about the future of your child more than your husband.