Husband's attention

[Siren]

Re: Husband’s attention

@NavAhmed

I think he is finding it difficult to balance his affection towards his family and his responsibilities towards his wife. If he is naturally very close to his family and unable to tolerate any criticism even if constructive or made with right intention, it will be very difficult for you to change that.

If you cannot change things completely to your liking, then consider some compromise. May be spend some time with his family as well. You said you are on maternity leave, and I presume you have reasonable qualifications and know-how about life matters. May be you can offer some help to your in-laws in managing their finances better and those type of things. May be your increasing closeness towards his siblings might help him appreciate you more and hence spend more time with you/address your needs etc.

In the end its your marriage and you have to fix the problems in it, which may require compromise, leniency, and even sacrifice, but its totally your decision what you would like to do. Off course you can put your foot down and announce enough is enough (and I will not blame you for doing that), but than you will have to be prepared to deal with potential consequences.

So I’ve already been trying to do that. I call his sister regularly and take his mom shopping since she’s a bit of a shopaholic. But I’m not the kind of person who rubs their good deeds in people’s faces so I don’t think he really realizes this. We’ve talked about counselling a couple of times but we usually end up patching things up and promising to do better only to have the same thing happen again a few months later.