i don’t know if there are any guys here on this forum who moved to UK/USA after getting married with a green card holder/UK or USA citizen.
but if there are any, or if you are a wife of one, or if you know any, tell us about the experience. how was it like moving to a different country? how hard was it to find a job, get in to college, get a driving license? how did you guys manage the living arrangements? did you guys lived with in-laws till you find a job and your own place, or started out living on your own. ETC.
Hubby came to the US on a fiance visa. But he came from the UK.
Re the job, it took a while. Within the first couple of months, he got a contract job through someone we know. That lasted a little while, but there was a significant gap when he wasn't working (despite getting his green card). But he is Alhamdullallah in a good job now. We have been married for almost 6 years now, mA.
If you drive in another country, it's not too hard to drive here. Each state has its own laws. Some will accept the foreign license and you just need to fill out some paperwork to get the local one. Others will require some written testing. Others an on road test. Some will require a full drivers ed course.
We lived with my parents for a week before our apartment was ready.
My husband came from pakistan ... i was working and rented an apartment for us.
He came at the time when economy collapsed in US and it took him a while to get a job. During that time he stayed at home, did cooking and all those house chores.
I believe that "rizq is from Allah and He has fixed it for us" so it did not bother me because I knew he was trying hard to find a job.
He got his learners permit during the stay at home period and then got his license once he got the job.
Also he had lived away from his parents due to his job in Pakistan as well so it was not such a big deal to move to US in terms of leaving back family.
my husband came to the US after our marriage.. since I am the only one from my family who chose to stay in the US after school, he never got to live with his in laws.. I was working and had an aprtment all these years so he just joined me there.
He came here when there were no jobs at all especially in our part of the country so he decided to go to school for his masters.. I think that was one of the best decisions we ever made..degree is must if you want to move higher in your field and if it's from the US, even better!
Re: the license.. he had his drivers license from Pakistan so even though he was able to drive wit that license for one year, we didn't take chances and he took his learners permit n the road test ASAP... I was sick n tired of driving by myself so we needed that!!!
Re: the adjustment.. no issues there.. he left his home at a very young age for school, work etc. so it didn't make any difference to be away from family.. and since both of our familes are back home, we miss them equally and talk regularly so we are pretty much in the same boat!!!
ps: I had moved back to Pakistan after our shadi but some circumstances made us move back here and it was a big step for him in terms of losing his very well paid job etc but I have supported him as much as possible and I don't think we would have done it without each other!