Re: Husband VS wearing Jeans - for married and unmarried ladies
hi sisters
what those ladies hide?? why they lie?
how do u handle ur husband abt this when they r from pakistan and uhv grown up in europe or when u live in europe do ur husband allow u to wear jeans?
share ur views
why those women lie? I dont know,, ask them. and besides i thinks thats between them and their husbands to solve.
for the second question, I know there are many men grown up here in europe and still dont like their wives wearing, tight jeans or whatever... personally i do wear jeans not the skin tight ones and always make sure i have a long blouse + cardigan over so it covers up certain areas. for me thats perfectly fine, because i know where my personal limits go being a hijabi. Now if i was married and the husband didnt like me wearing jeans or any other piece of clothing for that matter.. as long as he has a valid reason i wouldnt mind changing things up. A pair of jeans or any garment should not be more important than the relationship. And then of course i would expect him to compromise if there was something i didnt like.
Re: Husband VS wearing Jeans - for married and unmarried ladies
Women lie to women on many things :p. Lieing on wearing jeans is not a big sin.
A guy should know the clothing style of a girl before he decides to marry her. He can request a little bit of adjustments and changes but if he asks a girl who has been wearing sleeveless blouses to wear abayas after shadi, it will create problems between them.
If a husband is asking his wife not to wear jeans and she wants to wear them, she should show him jeans which are modest (the loose ones) and which can be worn modestly with long shirts. Healthy discussion and comparison of modest jeans and vulgar shalwar kameez can win wife a point. If a wife is being reasonable, the husband should be understanding also. I don't think lieing to husbands on such trivial matters is a good thing. Jhoot ko baray kaaamo k liye bacha ker rakho na :p
Re: Husband VS wearing Jeans - for married and unmarried ladies
Women don’t realise they are lieing to other women … they subconsciously do it because those women think that their husbands prevent them from wearing certain clothes and they never click when they actually go around wearing what they want …
Sometimes they will want other women to be in hardship while they go around in ease …
And sometimes they will say one thing and since they were talking about the topic they tell their husbands - I’m wearing this or that - because in their mind they don’t want to be the ones left behind - so it may be that at the time they talk to you “they were not allowed” and the time you saw them “they made sure they had the verdict changed” …
Re: Husband VS wearing Jeans - for married and unmarried ladies
When we moved to US from Pakistan, my father actually helped my mother with the transition (switching from shalwar kameez to pant shirt). I think it has to do a lot with trust, security (how secure you are about yourself), and respect.
