thank you everyone for your suggestions @soosoo: it wud be impossible to go to another city... guests and all plus teh walima function next day i am giving him a DVD player but i am wondering if i should do with the cake and all.. i guess best idea wud be to do something next day to walima.. we wud be relieved after all the functions @nida1990,stardust09:Puhleez he is not that deperate.. we have been friends since God knows when this was not planned by anyone of us.. it is a long weekend and probably the best dates both families can do. one thing is for sure i don`t want to share this occasion with anyone by getting a cake and cutting it infront of everyone....
Give him his gift on your wedding night, it will be after 12:00 after all :) You can wish him Happy Birthday and give his gift privately, can probably do the cake thing later.
I actually put my hubby's gift in my overnight suitcase which was sent to my room for the wedding night, you can do that if the DVD player fits in there :D