Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

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Do you take care of them yourself at home?

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You outsource it to a maid/servant at home?

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You send them to a old-house for more professional care

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

I would not expect my wife to take care of my parents when they get ill and/or old, unless I’m willing to take care of her parents when the same befell them too.

I see no valid reason whatsoever why my parents should get prioritized over her parents. And no, culture is not a valid reason.

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

Will take care of my own parents

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

This would be the solution for us as far as possible and would apply to husband’s parents as well as mine.. If we can’t manage then we’ll hire help to come to the home iA..

I’ve heard of a couple of people becoming very violent or too ill to stay at home so they don’t have much choice but to go into care but those are extreme cases..

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

why not kill them with bare hands?

just asking…

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

My parents, her parents, same thing. What’s good for the gander…

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

Yes, I would take care of my husband’s parents if they’re too old or ill. My mom set a great example for us as she took care of my dada and dadi like her own parents. And, it provided a great environment for us to grow up in and live with our grandparents. Our dadi always gave my mom and my siblings so many duas and great wishes.

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

Its my duty to take care of them which ever way its better for them and if my wife decide to help me with that, she will earn lot of brownie points but she is not required to.

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

smh you are hopeless. I’m going to get you institutionalized.

But to answer the question, i wouldn’t mind taking care of my husband’s parents to the best of my ability as long as i am able to do it. His parents, my parents, same thing :slight_smile: But say, if i was sick myself, i think it would be quite hard to take care of them too and deny them the proper services they deserve. But that’s just hypothetical. On the other hand, i would expect my husband to step up if i had to take care of my own parents one day and be just as supportive. The street goes both ways :slight_smile:

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if i will have parents in law, i will Inshahallah take care of them with all sincerity but i will hire a domestic help as well as i have grown up in an atmosphere where we always had domestic help so its kind of difficult for me to operate with out any in the future.

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

You marry him, you become a part of his family. His parents would be like mine…so yes, I would take care of them to the best of my ability.

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I don’t like the old houses here and most of the professional help can be hired privately if you’ve the means . The hubby and I are on very much the same page here alhamdulillah; none of our elders are going to be left in old houses and that includes not just our parents but also uncles, aunts and grandparents.

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Re: Husband Parents too old to care for themselves

I’d care for his parents.

But I am curious to know why husband’s parents are always looked at the mazloom ones that get left behind because of an evil bahu?

Why are the girl’s parents not considered deserving of love and attention?

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^ Precisely, no wonder so many want sons, when they know as parents of girls, they will get less rights, be on the loosing end on most issues, and have to make most of the sacrifices. Then we excuse it all by saying its been like this forever, its our culture.

Its time to stop practices which are the very reason why misogyny is prevalent to such a degree in desi society. Wife should have no more responsibility of taking care of her in-laws, than the husband has for his in-laws.

Women must take such great measures to keep the in-laws pleased, while we men are almost treated as demigods by our in-laws, purely on notion of being married to their sister/daughter.