the due date and my husband work trip are coinciding and i am extremely worried as it is very likely he will.not make it for the delivery. he will most probably leave during my 8th month and come back a month aftr the birth.
i feel so sad. not sure how i will manage. husband wants me to go to my parents house the day he leaves.
has anyone experience tehir first born in such circumstances.
how was it to be far from your husband in such time. how was it for the husband for not being able to be with his wife and see his newbonr only after a month?
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I think you guys need to prioritise. If he isn't there for several weeks of the babies life it can affect bonding, also what about the emotional support he should be giving you during that time. For me personally it was imperative hubby was by my side.
Im currently preganant and my I am due at the busiest time of year regarding my husbands yearly work schedule. He will make those sacrifices. Having said that if your partner is employed is employed by a firm its gonna be more challenging.
My husband has his own business so will accommodate time off but still with difficulty.
Your first born is an incredibly precious time and if possible he should make arrangements to be there . Just my opinion.
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Also if you read my previous thread on parenting. Although possibly rare, living with parents after the baby is born May not be all it cracks up to be. Depends on how supportive/ caring they are.
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my husband trip was planned the day he signed for his 15 month contract. he does not really have a choice but to fullfill his duty.
my parents are supportive and caring but the thought of not having my husband with me makes worried. i am especially upset for him to be far from.his newborn.
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My mom was alone as well after having me (In a different country than my dad) She had her brothers around for support but no women -She says it was really hard but she got thru it alhamdulilah.
As for my bonding with my dad; He’s the first one to get a text from me every morning; love you abbu
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You will be fine IA. I know babybird's situation is unique but if you have a good equation with your parents, your mom would be a blessing, IA. Employment is something important and if your husband can't get out of the commitment, then make the best of it.
There is Skype these days, he will be able to see baby, who won't really be much interactive the first few weeks anyway to do much bonding with dad if that's gnawing at you. You guys have the rest of your lives IA for all that. I am glad you have your parents house to go to, some of us have parents that live thousands of miles away and we don't have that option.
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Oh no, I'm sorry op but try and stay positive. I know it's harder than it seems but think of it as temporary. There will be lots of bonding time once he's back. I know you'll need his support but try and look to family during then and I'm sure those two months will fly by especially once the baby is here. Can he still come back on a weekend or two?
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so time has come. husband left and i am at my parents since a week. i am 33 weeks pregnant .
i feel so bored. nothing to do. sibling busy at work or university. when they come they are exhausted. dad doing his own things and is old. i sit and chit chat with mum but she has housework to do.
parents tell me to go for a walk but i feel so lonely on walks. and i miss my husband. although he was working full time, i never felt bored at home. and once he was home time flew. now im dreading post dinner time as i know i cant sleep through the night.
It's tough but u'll get through it. If ur parents are supportive, the time will fly by. Ur anxious right now and it feel like time is dragging...but after the baby lol.. u won't even know what's going on around u for the first 2 weeks.
Bonding isn't an issue at all. Quite honestly, i think for the first month newborns are attached to their mothers for everything. Fathers are a huge support for the new mom mostly, IMO.
