Re: Husband???? life is a mess.. advice plzz
I could be wrong with what I say here but from some of the couples I've met, I've noticed some things about some desi men. (remember I said SOME!)
It sounds to me like he's missing his homeland....he's homesick. And submerged in an entirely different culture, maybe missing his friends and family from back home very much. The way of life is so very different for him now and that must affect him greatly.
Also, some desi men have great difficulty relating to "women's problems", pregnancy and "women's issues"....due to cultural barriers they encountered in their upbringing. In addition to that, he may have trouble relating to health problems. Perhaps he just doesnt know what to say, how to handle the situation. Over in Pakistan, they have names for the husbands who help out around the house and they arent nice names! It isnt always understood that life and lifestyles are different in different countries.
Perhaps if you start a conversation with your husband about his homeland, get him talking about "back home" and then ask him how much he misses being there, does he want to return, is he happy where he is etc...you may get to the root of the problem and address the issues from there?
Just a guess...good luck to you and I wish you a healthy beautiful baby!