Re: Husband???? life is a mess.. advice plzz
Parda,
It is sad to know your story. I deeply condemn such attitude from a man at a time when he needs to concentrate on some important issues with you. Before I say my words, I'd wanna say something that I disagree with you. Not ALL the Pakistani mards are same. Most of the times, it is the communication barriers, difference is the way two people respond to each others needs is that plays a part in this situation.
From whatever you have written here and I can see there are multiple opinion in this thread that are given. My advice is this might be a temporary hurdle in your way. All you need to know is to know "what is bothering him". being a woman, a nd a wife, it is you who can do this job the best.
Remember, nobody will respond to your concerns in an attempt to seriously provide you a solution. We all are careless in responding. The best person to take advice is your mother. Please don't embark on anything that can demage your marriage relation. It may not be that serious and the problem could be of mere mis understanding. I have read in your response that you are only demanding needing and wanting things. Try to look at the whole scenerio from his side. He might be in the same situation. And over and above, you have not communicated him anything from your side. It is highly possible that you are not able to give him enough reassurance he needs and it may be highly possible that the way you are expressing it he is not understanding it that way. I am not sure.
It can purely be a matter of mis-communication. Please seek advice from some elder, most probably your mother. I am sure, it will change one two of you'd know each others needs.