Husband isn't ready for children

[lastingtwilight]

Re: Husband isn’t ready for children

@Sehrysh

I think instead of telling him you want to have kids right now, you should discuss when you want kids and compromise. You had agreed to wait 2 - 3 years - well why not plan a pregnancy for before your second anniversary (insofar as you can plan by coming off the pill in about 6 months and actively try).

More than that, discuss what goals you want to achieve before that time - places to travel, moving, financial savings and work towards reaching those goals. This gives both of you control and joint decision-making over your future as opposed to one telling or demanding of the other.

I think that’s a great idea. I’m the one that’s changed the goalposts, so I have to compromise.. It’ll be nice if I can get some sort of commitment from him to start trying around our 2yr anniversary or just before. It’s not that I desperately want a child right this second, I just wanted the possibility of trying to be sooner rather than later and then leave it in gods hands.