Husband in control of finances

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Re: Husband in control of finances

@Paheli00

Going by what OP wrote, it seems that she has been following his “rules” from day 1. In fact, according to her she has “never actually talked to him about it” meaning she’s been doing it without complaint. They’ve been married 5 YEARS and have 2 children. As a man, how long do you think is reasonable before a husband realizes his wife’s spending habits are not going to bankrupt him?

BTW, while this seems like a trust issue on the surface…I think it’s more about respect. When I hear about a husband treating his wife in this manner…especially when they’ve been married long enough where he should be aware of her personality/habits, to me it shows a complete lack of respect. A lack of respect for her judgment. Its a bit ironic actually. She’s responsible enough to give birth to and raise his children…but not responsible enough to decide when money needs to be spent on small things like kids shoes/haircut etc. without consulting him.

I should have mentioned..in the begining of the marriage. Especially arrange marriage, can’t say anything about love marriage. And yes it is quiet un-healthy of hiding pay as well as keep the account off limit to wife after 5 years of wedding. So my implication was more what OP should have done. Since that wasn’t the case..then probable solution should have been..where both can open joint account aside from having their own accounts.