Husband from pk, Wife from Canada = abcd (american/canadian born confused desi)

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Hummmmmm seedhi si bat hai itnay arsa mein to log janat se bhi bore ho kar dozakh mein hawa khori ko nikal jain, aap ne to shadi ki hai koi chocolate baar nahi chabaii. ghar aap thud se bhi shadi kar lYtien Na to 13 saal din raat apna mou daikh kar bizarre ho chuki hotien.

Khair yeh humari zati raey hai.

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i really wish the answers to ur questions were not so obvious :(

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now we cant have everyhting. can we?

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:wsalam: chicklit
I would say you generalized grossly .
There are contradictions in the first post too.

How can you be happy and then regret at the same time ?

There can be a culture clash , yes , but if the guy wants to be imported to live happily ever after and has the dream of going abroad for a bright future then he will make compromises too.

If we talk to your husband I am sure you will have a laundry list of compromises he made to keep your happy that is why you have lots of happiness . No ?

If the guy was forced by parents to marry a girl from abroad in hope for bright future of other siblings . If his heart and soul was not in that decision to marry a girl from abroad but he made a sacrifice for the better future of his whole family then surely that can create lots of issue.

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The advice the OP has given to ABCD girls not to import Pakistani husbands, I don't think all ABCDs have that choice. Many of them have to import or they will stay single forever.

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Yep, obviously the total population is higher so the number of professionally educated and good family background is higher.
Sometimes when people say that, it comes off as if the ratio of professionally educated and good family background to rest of the population is larger in Pakistan than overseas. Which is untrue.

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13 years ? is it not a bit early to think on this issue?

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Waalaikum'Salam.

I read about a Pakistani guy who eventually got married to an indian girl. Its been over a decade now and they're happily married MashaAllah sey. Similarly there are a few in my family who're married to catholic turned Muslims raised abroad while the guy was raised in Pakistan, and from the looks of it, the relationships going strong.

They say, God never gives you burden you cant handle, if he has, its only cause he thinks you can do it. People get along as long as they give as much thats needed.

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It’s all those ABCD girls’ fault, i mean if they just behaved properly ABCD guys wouldn’t be running to Pakistan thus drying up the pool of ABCD men and ABCD women won’t have to run to Pakistan to find a groom.

:halo:

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Well i'm not concerned by the ratio to the rest of the population (unless i'm doing a phd study or sthing), I just want to find the largest pool of women meeting my criteria.

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good point, for me an important part of the criteria was that she must have grown up or have spent a significant amount of time in UK/US etc which then significantly reduced the pool of women meeting my criteria in Pakistan vs here :D

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OP, can you give some specific examples of the problems you faced?

Am wondering how many other girls out there feel the same way as you after marrying from 'back home'..

I know there are some happy endings from various posters on this forum but would be interesting to see if most were glad they married men from back in Pakistan or if they would choose not to if they could go bk in time and do it again..

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"happy endings" is just a concept in bollywood movies. In reality, its more like a scale going from miserable to happy. So there is no true "happy ending" in real life (unless you happen to visit asian massage parlors of questionable rep).

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Agreed, it does work, sometimes, but not typically.
The people that disagree only have to look at previous threads, so many go through this crap over and over again and still people go to the homeland to get married!

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Do you really expect that people are going to start threads about how wonderful their life is and how great their choice of spouse was?

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LMAO