That does not matter. Someone told him or he himself came to this conclusion that enforcing hijab on his wife is a religious duty for him. , or maybe it dawned on him that since he is growing old and she is still young so people would be drolling on his wife. Who knows what is the motive behind his decision to enforce hijab at this point.
The question is does he have the right to enforce the hijab ? Should she oblige or part her ways on this issue ?
I think you might be right Mirch. She is very very attractive.
I don't know her very well but it seemed like she is willing to do hijaab (something she has thought about and will do in the future). I got the feeling she might be even more willing if they worked together and he would say -okay I will also lower my gaze and it's best for both of us islamically
But I think when he's oogling women or watching bollywood songs on utube and insists that SHE wear hijaab - I think it makes her angry and resetful (my opinion)
I agree. She should tell him to change his ways too and make it a pre condition , that might make him change his ways too.
I think you might be right Mirch. She is very very attractive.
I don't know her very well but it seemed like she is willing to do hijaab (something she has thought about and will do in the future). I got the feeling she might be even more willing if they worked together and he would say -okay I will also lower my gaze and it's best for both of us islamically
But I think when he's oogling women or watching bollywood songs on utube and insists that SHE wear hijaab - I think it makes her angry and resetful (my opinion)
LOL , he is still looking , that will surely get any wife mad.
maybe for now they can reach a compromise ... she doesn't have to do the black borqua complete parda...instead carry a scarf and use it when ard others to cover her head, not a tight scarf thats covers her ears and hair...but something that covers the head and the chest. just an idea.
It is either a two way traffic or no traffic at all. We can't give an advice and hope that it is accepted when we ourself don't accept advice from the same person. In case of two way traffic, both of them should be respectful towards each others beliefs because flexibility is the key. Though these matters should have been sorted out before marriage, one can't expect his/her views to be respected / followed by his /her spouse while giving no right to one's spouse to develop any expectation of their views / belief to be accepted.
I have come to know that there are some woman who keep complaining about their husbands trying to impose hijab on her, but she thinks that she has the right to not allow him to keep a beard as if she has the right to enforce "clean shave" on him. But of course, one should also not try to take a U-turn (revolution) after marriage. We should not expect our spouse to change his/her personality after marriage (a couple can only adjust with each others), otherwise we should have married the person who fits in our list of priorities.
There are some men who don't give much importance to hijab before marriage because they are overwhelmed by the beauty of their potential life partner, but after marriage when they get used to that beauty, hijab becomes a compulsion, which is equally wrong.
We can't change a person's personality, we can't force him / her to follow our ways, BUT we can convince him / her through honesty, logical reasoning and sincere prayers
It is either a two way traffic or no traffic at all. You can't give an advice and hope that it is expected when you yourself don't accept advice from the same person. In case of two way traffic, both of them should be respectful towards each others beliefs because flexibility is the key. Though these matters should have been sorted out before marriage, one can't expect his/her views to be respected / followed by his /her spouse while giving no right to one's spouse to develop any expectation of their views / belief to be accepted.
I have come to know that there are some woman who keep complaining about their husbands trying to impose hijab on her, but she thinks that she has the right to not allow him to keep a beard as if she has the right to enforce "clean shave" on him. But of course, one should not try to take a U-turn (revolution) after marriage. You should not expect your spouse to change his/her personality after marriage (a couple can only adjust with each others), otherwise you should have married the person who fits in your list of priorities.
There are some men who don't give much importance to hijab before marriage because they are overwhelmed by the beauty of their potential life partner, but after marriage when they get used to that beauty, hijab becomes a compulsion, which is equally wrong.
You can't change a person's personality, you can't force him / her to follow your ways, BUT you can convince him / her through honesty, logical reasoning and sincere prayers
Nice response but you are almost making it sound like a personal choice which it is not.
This kind of statements are “sound good statments”, but that they are not really from the light of the Quran or hadithes. Hijab means in Arabic means “to cover, to viel one self”. Charachter and behavior is called Akhlaq. Akhlaq and hijab are two different things. Neither one is better then the other- they are both important in Islam.
Also, in Islam it is the duty of husband, and your fathers to tell you to cover yourself: This is in the Quran- So the wife, whether she is covering or not has does not have right to complain when her husband enjoins this out of her- if she is a believer:
O Prophet! Enjoin your wives, your daughters, and the wives of true believersthat they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad) That is most convenient, that they may be distinguished and not be harassed. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Qur’an33:58–59)
i hav read a similar issue on a islamic site n the Imam sahib said that the wife by not listening to her husband r doing two gunnahs one the disobedience of Allah n second the disobedience of her husband.Also u cannot justify one wrong doing with the other.If husband is not good muslim but asking her to do a good thing.She can listen n slowly try to reform him in turn.So now the decision is hers.
I think you might be right Mirch. She is very very attractive.
I don't know her very well but it seemed like she is willing to do hijaab (something she has thought about and will do in the future). I got the feeling she might be even more willing if they worked together and he would say -okay I will also lower my gaze and it's best for both of us islamically
But I think when he's oogling women or watching bollywood songs on utube and insists that SHE wear hijaab - I think it makes her angry and resetful (my opinion)
it seems like there's a lot more going on then just the husband telling her to do hijab. She should talk about it with her husband, instead of telling her friends this. Martial affairs should stay between husband and wife, and maybe a trusted third non partial party. Going around complaining about her husband will never solve her issue- in fact it will worsen it. And plus, it's not right. She should be discussing the fact that him "oogling at women" and then telling her to "wear hijab" bothers her.
I didn't read all the posts but few and answering.
In my opinion. For whatever reason he wants you to do something good. Good for this life and life after this.
That lady is lucky lady warna to kuch husband aisay bhi hotay hain wo roz lartay hain kay scarf utaar do aur abaya pehanna chor do.
Now think who is lucky the lady whose husband ask her to do good thing or the one who herself does good think and her husband is continuously forcing her to do bad thing.
Aik hadees hai ghalaybun ya undaz e Mustafa Salallaho Alaihi Wassalam.
Muhammad SAWW nain kaha achchay kaam ki aik doosray ko hidayat karo aur buray kaam say roko.
Achchay kaam ko ranay kay liaay kahnay say bhi barabar ka sawab mil jata hai to free ka sawab huwa na.
That lady can ask him too if she wants but it's not necessary.
Jub itnay salon kay baad kahna shuru kia hai to zaroor koi na koi wajah ho gi aisay hi thori kah raha hai. Akhir wife ka wo dushmun to ho ga naheen. Agar dushmani main bhi karay to bhi wife kay liaay achcha kar raha hai.
Wo kahtay hain na. "naik kaam main dair kis baat ki".
Dil ho na ho pehan lo shayad Allah dil main shauq bhi paida kar day.
Main agar us wife ki jagah Hoti to khud ko khush qismat samajhti kay aik achcha mashwara denay walay say shadi huwi aur uska hukm forun baja lati kioon is liaay kay.
Allah nain kaha hai quran main kay agar kisi ko Allah kay baad sujday kay liaay ijazat hoti to wo husband ko.
There is no compulsion in religion.But it also doesnt mean Islam is like a buffet - you pick and choose parts of it.
I guess if her husband would have smartly told her how he'd like her to wear hijab, shed on its importance and all that by setting a good example for her - then she wouldn't react like this.
I think that's how you spread the good message, through your actions..because words can only do very little. Like if I would want my daughters to wear hijab, I would layout a good example in front of them - so they develop interest in it on their own, your job is to provide the right "setting" and the rest is their decision.
Quran main "Nabi ki bivion"kaha giya hy. jahan yeh hijab ka zikar hy jisy ap log farz/FARD keh ker bat kerty hain Nabi Kareem ki izwaj ko Nabi-e-akhiruzaman:saw2: ke wisal ke baad dosri shadi ki ijazat nahi thi ke woh baqi orton ke liy hai key woh ker sakti hain. isi trha ye Ayat jis ka hwal daity hain khs tor per Azwaj-e-mutaherta ko mukhatib ker ky kahi gai hy. Ab molvi sab per thonsney lag giy. Theek hai koi on ki trha kerna chahey ker ley nahi kerti tu farz/fard kero fardh /farz hai bhi tu keh diya kafi hy baqi Mamala Allah ke hwaley.
Os key or Allah ke beech masla hey. Shohar kion force ker raha hai:hmmm: