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Islamically his wife comes first. How would I react? Oh I would let him have it....but that's just me and your friend will probably want to do things in a more cordial manner. To be honest, it won't be easy because in my experience men like this NEVER change. She should talk to him about him and tell him how it makes her feel (controlled and undervalued).
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Title is absurd..
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awesome!
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Islamically his wife comes first.
Islamically wife comes first before his mother too?
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I dont think " Islamically" the wife comes first.. both have their own place.. but even if Islamically that was true.. usually saying " becoz islam tells us to" is not a successful way to get any one to change their ways. Also , though i realize the wifes frustration.. the wife has to realise that the mother and family has been there way more than the wife.. its not practical to think the guys will automatically delete the family out of their lives and will change every thing.. the only way to work around this is to have a little patience and to believe that things Do change.. not totally but they do.. once u guys spend some time together and him and the family stops seeing the wife as a threat... every one is gona back off.. but if the wife keeps on nagging.. the husband will automatically gravitate more towards the family.. leaving the wife More frustrated
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Why wives expect their husbands to throw their families out of the life once they are married? They will always remain an integral part of his life just get over with this fact.
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Islamically, using your your common sense comes first.
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Islamically speaking, his parents are a very important part of his life. Its where he came from and who he is...so you cannot compete with that.
I find it disturbing that you find nothing wrong with speaking ill of his family TO him. Even if its true...would ANY child acknowledge their parents as evil? Would they want to? No. Your expectations are not reasonable...you cannot expect him to just forget his parents because they treat you badly. As strange as it sounds - it will NOT happen.
You're pushing him away from you and into the arms of his parents.
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What I have seen recently is that there is just lack of patience in a lot of girls. They want the husband to themselves and just don't realize that he had other relations before he got married and he can't just break them off. They also need to realize that no one likes to hear someone else bashing and complaining about their family. So why do you expect the husband to listen to you AND agree with you when you complain about his family.
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Right....so when the husband's family is treating their DIL like total garbage, complaining about the most ridiculous petty things and trying to turn everyone including her own husband against her, she should not mention it and sit there and have patience? WOW.
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No one should tolerate batameez behavior from in laws. But nagging your husband about small issues isn't helpful. A lot more gets said when you state ONCE that such and such behavior will not be tolerated. And once you IGNORE a lot of that behavior, you'll see sisters in law and mothers in law will eventually give up.
It's hard when you are under their roof though.
Bottom line, just don't talk much to your in laws if you don't like them. Yes even if you live with them. I have some aunts who barely speak to the other ladies in the home. They keep to themselves and do their own thing.
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