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Re: Husband and wife relationship
wbisoux,
i did not read what you wrote so ca't say what it would have asked about.
but the best thing in case of a couple is that each person is taken as a confidant, and a trusted life partner, one around which one is comfortable and that both are able to respect each other, and take each other as a composite of good and bad which we all have, some have more bad and some have less and some have more good and some have less. or some have no good at all and have all bad.
from beginning a relationship to solidifying it through marriage, one must be able to bring out the best in each other.
the complete happiness for any couple is when they are able to refine each other in comfort. instance: if the wife has a fiery temper or the husband, then both should be able to be patient and little by little enable each other to become less angry and more sensitive.
may Allah swt bring sanity to people who dont respect accorded respect. amen.
best,
Dushwari