What’s your opinion on your husband having the occasional drink or two? What would you reply to this (You don’t pray 5 times a day or wear a hijab so you’re committing sin just as much as me) if he rebutes your reason for disliking him to drink alcohol?
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**it's between him and Allah...and of course...between you and him.
if you can NOT live with him because of this then you have the option to get a Khula [divorce]. think about children, if you have any. would you let your children grow up in the presence of someone who drinks? if you do, you will be de-sensitizing them against alcohol and then you'll be held accountable in the sight of Allah. you also have to think on this line as well...you will also be sinning if you live with someone who drinks. think about a situation when he becomes a heavy drinker, God forbid!
you have to evaluate your situation...NOW!**
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no. no alcohol. never ever ever.
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I see nothing wrong with a drink or two. I saw empty alcohol bottles in the streets in Lahore, so some there agree with my views too. Not to mention the state run brewary there.
KKF the OP suggested the wife is not really religous, so why the heavy religious advice? Advise her to cover up and pray 5 times a day first before she divorces her husband. That would be fair.
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for starters - dont let him drink and drive
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KKF the OP suggested the wife is not really religous, so why the heavy religious advice? Advise her to cover up and pray 5 times a day first before she divorces her husband. That would be fair.
**well, if she professes to be a Muslim, she has to worry about it because, in Islam, alcohol is one of the major Haram things and it's use is a major sin...she must worry...if NOT for herself then for her children!
i gave advice from worldly point of view as well.**
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Dont bring religion in. Talk about his health, his sanity. Let him know that he does not need to be intoxicated to enjoy life.
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I don't think one can say for sure what they would do unless they are in that situations because all of factors have to be kept in mind while dealing with it.
1) His reasons for it? I am not saying there can be any valid reason for it but when you figure out why he drinks, that would help you deal with the situation better.
2) Your relationship with your husband overall keeping this aspect aside.
3) How willing is he to change his habbit.
4) How patient you are to help him change this habbit.
Etc, etc.
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no. no alcohol. never ever ever.
but in your case, it would be advantageous. You would appear attractive to him if you let him drink a little.
Boo-yah
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**well, if she professes to be a Muslim, she has to worry about it because, in Islam, alcohol is one of the major Haram things and it's use is a major sin...she must worry...if NOT for herself then for her children!
i gave advice from worldly point of view as well.**
Surely with that logic the husband would worry too about the haram things she does? Are the Harams in Islam ranked major to minor?
Why pick only on the husbands one fault?
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It's haram, so I would get a divorce. Also, that stuff stinks and I wouldn't want it anywhere near me.
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I don’t drink, nobody around me drinks and therefor my significant other WILL not drink….
I would never marry anyone who drinks period, it sucks and I wouldn’t want to
deal with it... yah knows the drill:P
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I don’t drink, nobody around me drinks and therefor my significant other WILL not drink…. I would never marry anyone who drinks period, it sucks and I wouldn’t want to deal with it... yah knows the drill:P
Thge question was what if he did. How would you deal with it, divorce?
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Alcohol is a no-no.
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What's your opinion on your husband having the occasional drink or two? What would you reply to this (You don't pray 5 times a day or wear a hijab so you're committing sin just as much as me) if he rebutes your reason for disliking him to drink alcohol?
I'm replying from a completely non-religious perspective. Anything done to the extreme is bad. Having an occasional beer or glass of wine is not harmful.
If you're worried about kids - My uncle and aunt drink (socially). My cousins grew up watching their parents drink on some occasions. Nothing bad ever happened to them because of this. My uncle and aunt took care to never make drinking a big deal.
From what I've seen, kids who binge drink or get addicted to alcohol are often those whose families make drinking a huge taboo. Then when the kids grow up, they suddenly have the freedom and access to alcohol and that makes them go crazy.
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did he drink before your marriage??
did u know beforehand?
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No … It is quite harmful even in small amounts. It is the place the people choose to go to deal with their problems … It is like a god to them.
If you really want him to stop drinking … Then start praying 5 times a day, pray for him and ask him to leave it everyday, just once and do not get angry with him. Become more and more religious.
Some people say that the occasional drink reduces the chance of heart disease … This is true, but new research shows that even the occasional drink of alcohol desperately increases the chances of getting cancer.
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I respectfully disagree. Me and my husband drink socially, and alcohol is definitely not God to us! Nor is it something we resort to when we’re depressed or troubled. In fact most of our friends are occasional drinkers and nobody has a drinking problem.
That was informative, thank you!
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I'd just talk to him. If it's just a drink or two, I don't see a huge deal (not bringing religion into it). In my family, there are a few who drink (socially) and they usually get frowned upon by everyone else. My parents are strictly against it as well so naturally I feel bleh about alcohol so I wouldn't want my SO to drink.
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Aight..taking religious perspective out of it. I do not drink alcohol because this is not my thing and never been. For some people, indeed this is social thing to do but xtron thinks there are non-alcoholic drinks you can enjoy as well while socializing.
And if your husband thinks it's ok for him..then i say good for him.