asalam walkum everyone… just confused about one thing… explain me… wha do u think if ur close to someone… and theygot something already…e.g clothes, pursesetc andu dont like it… will u say to them that.? or u let them be happy with that thing? what u ppl do ..this is a common situation …plz helpmegetting the answer .thanks
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they got you a gift that you don't like, or they got something for htemselves that you don't liek?
in the frist situation, accept it graciously and say thank you. Use it or not.
in the second situation, well, I don't know why it would be your problem if you don't like what they have for thesmevles.
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no it is they buy for themselves and u know when they show u u have to comment on that ...oh e.g o yes it is looing nice or no i dont like it .... whatever it is ;)
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yea, so why can't you say it's nice? Why does it give you a problem if you don't like it?
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Depends on the relationship. If it's someone I'm close and comfortable/frank with, I'll be honest or try wording my comment in a gentler way. If I know that the person is sensitive and Isee that they're really happy with their things, then I'll support them. Another thing to consider is what exactly the purchase is. If it's something that can't be undone like a hair cut or can't be returned easily, it's better to remain tactful.
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Over time I have learnt, always try to compliment when someone's asking for your opinion specially if they've already bought the item. They thought it was cute enough to buy, why not give them complete satisfaction that it really is cute. If they havn't yet bought it and want your opinion than it's safer to let them know your true feelings about it.
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I remember when a very close friend of mine saw my wedding pictures. She disliked my wedding dress so much that she straight forwardly told said that the Bridal Dress is sooo Paindoo and not at all up to designer labeled mark. Though it was one of the beautiful dress. Everyone loved it and even took it for copying my design later.
I didn’t say anything to her but only smiled.
As far as I am concerned. I will never ever dare to disappoint someone just because it contents my heart. One should always think about other person emotions.
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Thank u everyone that's what I was having argue with my friends.... I think If I don't like anything of someone (already bought) I keep it to myself becuz I don't want to hurt them becuz its could hurt their feelings.... becuz they already have it, they cant returned it and ofcoarse they buy it so it means they like it... rather than saying I don't like it .... I think we should encourage them... but my friends were saying if u r a good friend u should say the truth ... I disagree thought of u ppl.. to ask??thanks
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I really don't understand...
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Trying to understand what you are saying here.
So if you are a true friend , you will state your feelings regardless of how the other person feels upon hearing your words?
It does depend on the friendship, but you also have to weigh in how much the other person likes that something. If your friend is happy with her purchase, why put their happiness down because you don't like it?
Now on the other hand if your question means this : IYour friend purchased you a gift, and asks if YOU like it or not... Ermm, it is extremely rude, and ungracious of a person to not acknowledge the gift and to actually say you did not like it.
I HAD a friend who after every dinner party would call, and say "so and so gave me this, so and so gave me this , you gave me this, we did not need the gift so gave it away to charity". THAT really hurts.. :)
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They bought it for themselves so at the end it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or should think. If asked about the purchase 'Kaisa hai'? just smile and say 'If it makes you happy than I am happy too'
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Um, I think I get it. So...if this gift is something that looks nice on her or suits her...let her be happy with it. If its not your style, then hush up. My friends have different taste to mine too at times...but that doesn't mean what they picked out is bad. Often times, I even change my mind or they change theirs because they see it on someone and think "maybe its not that bad after all". So, be neutral and realize its not about it being good or bad - just not your taste and say something like "it looks good on you...not sure if I could pull it off".
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If it's something that doesn't look flattering - eg color clashes with skin tone, too tight, too revealing, too much bling - as a friend you should tell her. Just word it nicely so she knows the problem is with the outfit/accessory, and not with the way she looks.
If it's something that's just not your personal taste, don't tell her.
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is the question too complicated?