Re: Hurt by people on this world
Asslam-U-Alikum sister
You should thank Allah Subhaanhu Wa Ta'ala for guiding you on to the straight path, and repent him all the time for the evil actions you committed. Indeed, mixing up with non-meharams and having illegal relationship is a great evil act. If your repentence is sincere, then InshaAllah Allah Subhaanhu Wa Ta'ala will forgive all your sins and inshAllah you'll not be punished for what you did in the past.
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Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And there is no sin on you concerning that in which you made a mistake, except in regard to what your hearts deliberately intend. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful” [al-Ahzaab 33:5]. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Every son of Adam commits sin, and the best of those who commit sin are those who repent.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2499; Ibn Maajah, 4251; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in * Saheeh* al-Tirmidhi. Allaah says in the Quran again(interpretation of the meaning): “Say: O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily, Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”[al-Zumar 39:53]. *
Remember that Allaah will turn your bad deeds into good deeds if you do that. Listen to what our Lord, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
*69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful” *[al-Furqaan 25:68-70]*
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Therefore, sincere repentence will not only wipe your sins but Allah also promised that He will turn into good deeds. Allahhu Akbar! Indeed, *"Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful"!
*Now as far concerning, if he or you will be punished for hurting each other, according to my best Knowledge, No, you will not! Because the relationship was illegal according to Islam and those feelings were raised by Shatan and he guided you on to the wrong path and now he's tricking you again by making you believe that by hurting each other you'll be punished by Allah Subhaanhu Wa Ta'ala. The best solution for you both is that repent to Allah Subhaanhu Wa Ta'ala for your evil deed, inshAllah, He'll draw your heart away from him or whatever feelings you have! Wallhuaalm (Allah knows best)
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2- If the person can't forgive and forget, will they be forgiven by ALLAH because I read once that the person you hurt has to forgive you.
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As far concerning this, yes the person who got hurt have to forgive the person who have hurt him/her in order to his/her repentence to be accepted in front of Allah Subhaanhu Wa Ta'ala. Allah only forgives those sins which were done against him, means not obeying his commands and orders but He will not forgive those sins that were committed by hurting others.
Also, you must notice that Allah Subhaanhu Wa Ta'ala is the most merciful and Gafoour-ur-Raheem, He forgives His salves or ture believers even though they comit so many sins. Prophet (SAW) also forgave his enemies for whatever they did to him. Then why can't we forgive each other/ our fellow muslim brothers/sisters?
In Islam there's nothing wrong if a person likes/loves someone as long that person has good/clean & halal intentions, keeps that secret to only himself/herself and looking forward to marry that person or pray to Allah that he/she can marry to that person. However, no talking or expressing her/his feelings are allowed and that'll be considered haram and the realtionship will become haram because they both are non-meharam to each other. **There's hadith that says a person who really loves someone and wants to marry that person but he dies before, he is a shaheed (martyrad). Hence, as long as we can keep our hearts clean from any kind of shatani evil and thoughts and doesn't lose Allah's love from our hearts, it's halal to love a person. However, we shouldn't forget that our beloved Prophet (SAW) advised us to marry only those who are religiously committed. And please don't cross the Islamic boundries.**
Wallhuaalm (Allah knows best)
Asslam-U-Alikum
I loved a man for 5 yrs. He was a non mehram and I know I will get punished for it. I have repented many times and will not do it again. To make it clear i never allowed him to touch me, i used to love him in an emotional way and i wanted to marry him. I never used to meet him much but most we used to speak on the phone, when we used to pass each other in front of people it would be like we are strangers. My intentions were clean.
