Hurt By Friendship

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How many times have you been hurt by friendship? felt that the friend has stabbed you in the back and never even realized his or her mistakes? How many best friends did you have over the years? Do you believe in best friends? How many real friends do you feel you have? What’s the most valuable lesson you have learned?

Share with us your friendship experiences.

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Once I was really hurt when one of my friends left me for no reason at all. I asked her so many times but she did not reply. Then I moved on.
We meet about daily have a handshake & thats it!!
Sometimes I do feel bad that why she did this but she never told me. I think she wanted to be friends with someone else who could've been a great help in the long run. That new friend's father was a professor. Anyway thats a long story but what I saw after a few months was that they had their separate ways. I did not feel good that way also, bcoz I didn't want her to be hurt as I was hurt.

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it is life, cant do much and shouldnt expect much either.

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too many times to count :emmy:

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well i only expect onething from anyone i am talking to, that he/n most of the time she(z), so atleast THINK for a min what i am saying.

i dont know why, but i find a drastic change in few of my frndz in pakistan that tehy try to be over smart. (for no ***** reason)

but i have some of the great minds as frnds. :hooray: (MAY ALLAH SWT GIVE THEM SUCCESS, AMEEN AND INSHAALLAH)

  • where ever i go i make frnds, despite they are older to me, or what ever their race is. in fact if you ask me teachers can be your best frend/ **mentor **. try to be their frnd, ask about their lives, and living and perspective. (i try to avoid younger gals/guys). :biggthumb
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i think wwe'v all been hurt, and in the same manner we have probably hurt other ppl

its life.. :S, i dont think things with closee friends really change tho, u can always make up

2nd Semi-Final: Pakistan v India at Mohali, Wed March 30
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All friends are people like you and I, they have their own needs and expectations from a relationship. keep your expectations realistic...........you wil never be dissapointed...:)

All real friends through out life have been good......No friend ever dissapointed me......:)

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neva.....
cuz i dont expect nething frm them ......
n hell i m not a president .... so back stabbing doesnt hurts me

2nd Semi-Final: Pakistan v India at Mohali, Wed March 30
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Dear natalia,
thank Allah swt that you have a good practical and honest heart. that you place demand of honesty so that you can be honest as well, regardless. if someone mistreats you, think, that this is all that person could do, either for being raised like so, thankless, selfish and mean spiritedness, or the personality of that person is not ready for you.
it must hurt, and that is a living proof that you are in the right, when someone has wronged you, egregiously.
be consistent and do not ever hide your emotions of hurt ot pain,happiness and liking, or being doubtful of someone's intention or motives.
if they are just as clear minded, and honest, both of you will sit down over coffee in person, and dewrinkle of the miscommunication or implanted poison.

unless, that happens, there is no genuine sorry, so genuine relief for the other person from her/his own self guilt oover having hurt someone.

friendships are for keeps, not for selfish actions. be it between two best friends, or any two people who ideally can have a very long standing friendship.
but it goes mellow and sour, terse and full of disappointment, when someone turns out to be a failure at keeping a friendship fair, commited and strong.

in the mean time, what you can do, is that let that individual be on her/his alone and figure out one horrible mistakes. keep no grudges. pray that such a pitiable person does not hurt someone else like that, as a friend of as a parasite.
like sindsagar said, realistic expectation, is helpful. but if you are 100 % honest, chances are, people are not used to that and so, they destroy all good will, mindlessly.
for them to realize what they have done you have to remain good yourself.
and do not let your life be affected by disappointing friendships.
that is your lesson.
if such a person ever comes back, to offer an apology genuinely. and you can see that she/he has realized their flaws.
people go by appearances and it is true: that is what does them in big time.
you wish them well. and you live in honor for Allah swt is watching over every-body. and he does do justice. be faithful and patient. may all smiles come your way and every success find you before you get to it. amen. :>
best,
Dushwari

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lol…no back stabbing…cuz you gonna be aired on GEOooooooo :p, so call it FRONT STABBING. :cb:

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Lost some friends that NEEDED LOSING..:)

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I really dont believe in friendship anymoer... there are just not many nice people around aymore :( I also notice that I tend to get along better with males than females... and had better, truer friends when I was younger (pre-adolescence) than I do now sigh

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never hurt :)

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Many many many times:(

Back in school my best friend at that time stopped talking to me cuz my younger sister and her younger brother had a fight, they were both around 11..so stupid!

and many stories later on as well..feel used a lot by friends and expereinced that nobody showed exitement at my happy occassion..

today I only have a few good friends. but I am aware of the fact that it can slip whenever so i am very careful in sharing secrets and personal information

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U know the reason Riya...its because with having females as friends ....the addition to the mix is sometimes jealousy/competitiveness /back biting etc.....