***Is this a particular trait to desis or is it more widespread ?
What do you make of such people who feel the need to hurl obscenities , derogatory and belittling remarks to make their points ?
Is it merely a shortcoming on their part or just their innate nature to feel that they got the last word in ?
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I feel very uncomfortable when people use obscene words even in a joke. Like even F word. I am not trying to prove myself bigger or better than anyone, I was like that once but I had to make a conscious effort to watch what i say, especially because now I have kids around.
We think we can do it outside and will be careful at work. But that is not true. Words slip out of our mouth at such an odd situation if we are in the habit of saying that.
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***Exactly TLK.....its a force of habit then !
I've never liked or used the F word in my normal conversations and I find it highly distasteful when kids nowadays use it so often ( wtf , lmfao , etc )and think its "Kool" !***
As far as making a point is concerned I think you can make a stronger point by refraining from expletives and belittling remarks . Use of those words/terms/statements just points to an inferior intellect !
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Good point.
Two common reasons for using these kind of words:
1-Trying to put 'weight' in what is said seriously or in jokes. If you see certain stand up comedies on cable you will see this a lot. :-(
A hidden way of joking however with careful choice of words seems OK though....
:-)
For Example:
A doctor was examining 80 year old woman with hearing problem.
He says: "Big breaths" while listening to her lungs.
She says: Yeah, they used to be!
2- Habit. Mostly from bad company or background but even 'educated class' is not immune from it. It is called Regurgitation/Reflex phenomenon.
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Habit. Culture and environment.
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I will just copy paste my blog entry here as it is on topic.
Swearing or calling someone bad names to make a point, it does not lead to anywhere. It does help with one thing. It helps with mental peace and self satisfaction. Lets say you are really pissed off at someone and you do not know what to do. It is the bang your head in to the wall kind of situation. You will say what the *, ass ole, * you, *****, and so many other words. Ghussa thanda hogaya but now what? It is not going to affect the person you are saying this to.
I am not going to be all avengilical and say I do not swear. I do. Sometimes when I am highly infuriarated. I actually do feel better when I swear. I mostly swear in Punjabi though.
You only loose respect in the person eyes if you do swear. It does not lead to anywhere. Maybe if you are in a habit or highly mad then you do swear but swearing all the time and being a ***** is not a good thing.
Habit. Culture and environment.
And insecurities. Mostly in a discussion/conversation the party with weaker reasoning skills starts exhibiting this behaviour to counter other's logical reasoning.
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^Quite true. I believe it's the lack of tolerance and sometimes some people just wanna act "cool".