Re: Humble request ~-< SHIAs & SUNNIs>-~
@dawa-i-dil. Brother, I understand your honest points, but I would like to share here certain things which needs to be considered.
In a lot of families of both the sects "Prejudice" against the opposition is drumed so intensely into the mind of children that due to immaturity they become totally blind to logic, truth and "sense" in this topic. They only make use of emotions, no matter how authentic and clear Quranic verse or hadith is shown to them, they would always try to come up with some excuse instead of sincerely analysing the truth. Here I am not pointing at anyone but people like MYSELF. (Talking about both sunni and shia families)
Such arguements only have destructive results and positive results have not yet been achieved in any way.
The best way would be to not argue and also not remain quiet. If a person says something bad about any respectful person, request him to not say it infront of you, if he says in his own house, leave his house and stop talking to him. Incase if he says on forum, kindly request the authorities to take appropriate step against them.
^ The reason why I am saying this is that such discussions would go on and on and some people seem to be ready to stoop to any level and any attitude, but we need to maintain our dignity instead of falling to the lower level. Instead we can lift them to our level by telling them politely that we are totally not interested in their accusations on "anyone". Also if a person insists in the forum or in real life, we can always inform the authority to take appropriate steps.
In alot of cases the Prophet (saw) forbid the suhabas to argue or fall to the level of "Kuffar" when those kuffar used to use intensively bad words towards the Prophet (saw). Instead He (saw) used to politely deal with them in such a beautiful way that the SAME "Kuffars" became embarrassed and reverted to Islam. We need to follow those ways to achieve peace and friendly environment.
May Allah forgive me if I unintentionally said anything bad. Allah knows best!
JAzakAllah khair for your time.