Human Beings are not supposed to be monogamous...

Are Humans Meant to be Monogamous? Jeanna Bryner

News of politicians’ extramarital affairs seems to be in no short supply lately, but if humans were cut from exactly the same cloth as other mammals, a faithful spouse would be an unusual phenomenon.

Only 3 percent to 5 percent of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals (including humans) are known to form lifelong, monogamous bonds, with the loyal superstars including beavers, wolves and some bats.

Social monogamy is a term referring to creatures that pair up to mate and raise offspring but still have flings. Sexually monogamous pairs mate with only with one partner. So a cheating husband who detours for a romantic romp yet returns home in time to tuck in the kids at night would be considered socially monogamous.

Beyond that, scientists’ definitions for monogamy vary.

Evolutionary psychologists have suggested that men are more likely to have extramarital sex, partially due to the male urge to “spread genes” by broadcasting sperm. Both males and females, these scientists say, try to up their evolutionary progress by seeking out high-quality mates, albeit in different ways.

The committed partnership between a man and a woman evolved, some say, for the well-being of children.

“The human species has evolved to make commitments between males and females in regards to raising their offspring, so this is a bond,” said Jane Lancaster, an evolutionary anthropologist at the University of New Mexico. “However that bond can fit into all kinds of marriage patterns - polygyny, single parenthood, monogamy.”

The human species is somewhat unique amongst mammals in that fathers do invest in raising children.

“We do know that in humans we do have this pretty strong pair bond, and there’s more paternal investment than in most other primates,” said Daniel Kruger, a social and evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan’s School of Public Health. “We’re special in this regard, but at the same time like most mammals, we are a polygynous species.” Kruger said humans are considered “mildly polygynous,” in which a male mates with more than one female.

Whether or not the married or otherwise committed individuals stray for sex depends on the costs and benefits.

“There is plenty of evidence that males have less to lose than females by having extramarital sex,” Lancaster said. “Having less to lose, it’s easier for them to do it.”

Women, however, could lose “dad’s” resources when it comes to raising their kids. “For women, the well-being of their children is not improved by promiscuity,” Lancaster told LiveScience.

Some scientists view both social and sexual monogamy in humans as a societal structure rather than a natural state.

“I don’t think we are a monogamous animal,” said Pepper Schwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle. “A really monogamous animal is a goose - which never mates again even if its mate is killed.”

She added, “Monogamy is invented for order and investment - but not necessarily because it’s ‘natural.’”

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Monogamy is wrong and unfair to the women. And as a man, one woman is enough to drive you insane, why would you want more than one.

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^^ Well because every man likes a change. :)

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So does every woman. :)

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I wouldn't admit to it if I were you... ^^

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women like different kind of change.
See its always women who come with these ideas"honey we should change our curtains, how about re doing the kitchen etc"

At that point men keep quiet cuz they are thinking about a different kind of change.
If you know what I mean.

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Ek to sambhalti nahiN, dusri ki baRi BaRi baatein! :snooty:

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^lol
once my sister in law was coming to back our home town, leaving my brother alone in Islamabad. Her landlady go"mardoon ko ekeela nahee chorty , dosi shadi ker ly ga"
My sister-in-law said"I know how hard it is for him to keep one first one"
hahaha

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Yeah you do get to hear that kind of stuff...the funny part is that these days it seems like men should be afraid of leaving their wives alone...there's a lot of women initiating extramarital affairs for whatever reason. I guess the time has come where both men and women are becoming restless.

Here's a real story. Back home in India, I know of a guy, married with 3 daughters. Beautiful wife. Well off, etc. This doctor woman befriends him and asks him to have an affair. The guy refuses. The woman gets mad. Hires a professional, gets this guy killed. Finally, after much investigation, she is caught and she confesses. Just imagine!

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^ wow get some one killed , only because he said no.
that cruel, I hope gets deserving punishment.

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What? i like having a new lipstick or bag every few months :snooty:

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Human Beings have no "nature". We are not poly / monogamous. We have accepted "monogamous" structure because that what works best for us (especially in the old times).

"nature" of any living being - CANNOT be changed. For example, A lion nature is to eat meat. It will die of starvation but will not eat any veges. Duck when hatched know how to swim, how their predators are - and look to get into water to avoid predators , that is their nature.
Human "learn" as they grow and adapt to their surrounding.
(we can find few exceptions to refute this claim for humans, but in general - humans don't have NATURE )

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So one can say Yes in case of life endangerment :halo: