Huge fight with husband

[Reha]

Re: Huge fight with husband

@Shanzai

This is my first thread here i believe. so a little background on me. i am the eldest daughter and have always financially helped my parents and took care of my sisters. i got married to my cousin and from the first day of marriage ’ this thing is stuck in his mind that my parents have took all my money and that i spend everything on them’ he believes that all the money spend on our marriage and the gifts given to him was my money and my parents didnt spend a penny on him. i work only part time after marriage and also in university . i have to pay my fees thats why i dont contribute much at home. he thinks that i am sending all the money to my parents. i am sick and tired of his behaviour
. this topic cause huge fights between both of us . he even tell his family that her parents did not spend a penny on me and all the gifts were bought with her money which is not the case but he doesnt believe me. i am so sick and tired of the same argument everyday. tell me was i wrong when i was not married , working . we are from a middle class family so wasnt i suppose to help my parents.. was i suppose to kepp all my money and let my parents suffer financially..i am just going crazy on this issue..there is alot of other details but i dont want to make people read a novel. Men please tell me if you have wives with similar backgrounds . do u give them ( tanay) of helping their parents financially. we have had plenty of conversations on this topic i just cannot change his mentality.

Um, he has no right to get angry. He has no right to stop you from supporting your parents. He has even less rights over your parents’ money and being privy to the details of the wedding expenses and how they were handled.

Okay he is your husband and I understand that part. BUT you should never have shared your parents’ personal information with him. Its not about sharing everything with your spouse. Its about keeping your parents’ izzat and keeping their image in your husband’s eyes as well as your inlaws.

Once you guys understood each other more it would have been safer to talk about this but right now? It seems like the wedding should have been all about him…lol. He sounds like a girl throwing a fit over her bari ke kapray.