Huge fight with husband

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Re: Huge fight with husband

@psyah

1. Why should your parents spend money on him? Tell him that he has the Islamic responsibility to earn for himself, you and his own parents … Your parents should not be giving him any money … Unless he is below nisab to receive zakat. If they give him, the money you have given them then that is up to them and out of the goodness of their hearts !!M

2. A husband has no Islamic right over his wife’s hard earned money … What does he want you to do? give him money directly instead of giving to your parents?

3. Youhave no Islamic obligation to provide money to your parents, but if you do so out of your wish to keep them in ease, then this is a double reward for you. Does your husband want to deprive you of that reward?

4. Your parents should not demand or expect money from you as though it is an Islamic obligation on you to give to them … which I guess they are not doing that anyway …

I think it annoys your husband to be taking money from your parents … And he wants you to give him money directly … I hope that is not happening … but it is better That parents carry on doing what they are doing, that they give the gift you give them as a gift to others from them …

I suggest that you tell your husband that whatever money you have given your parents is a gift, if they then choose to give that money to others it is from them and it doesn’t matter where it originally came from …

I thought it was our obligation to always care for our parents in whatever way they need.

@Shanzai

i didnt share anything with him he assumes everything. since i dont have tons of money that i brought with me since i was working for many years he assumed that i spend all that on my parents and they took it happily. how could have i not helped my parents when they needed my help. how could i be so selfish to save my money and see my parents struggling

How is he coming to this assumption?